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8 Ways Your Partner Shows You Disrespect

Relationships are as intricate as they are transformative—a mosaic of shared moments, vulnerabilities, and sometimes, painful missteps.

When disrespect creeps into the mix, it can destabilize the trust and intimacy that bind partners together.

In this post, we explore 8 distinct ways your partner might be showing you disrespect, weaving in insights from social science research and the ideas of thought leaders such as John Gottman, Brené Brown, Sue Johnson, Esther Perel, and others.

We also take a deeper look into two special contexts that sometimes envelope a disrespect narrative: the dynamics associated with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and the unique communication challenges related to neurodiversity.

We’ll touch on some familiar concepts including micro-aggressions, emotional invalidation, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, autonomy, vulnerability, and power imbalances.

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Narcissists, Lies, and Hidden Bank Accounts: The Truth About Financial Infidelity

Love and money—the two great forces that keep relationships thriving or, in some cases, imploding spectacularly.

In a world where trust is the bedrock of any strong partnership, a staggering 40% of Americans admit to hiding financial activities from their significant others (Experian, 2024).

This ranges from secret purchases and undisclosed debts to entirely hidden bank accounts.

Even more unsettling, 45% of people equate financial deception with physical infidelity (Kiplinger, 2025).

But what happens when financial infidelity isn’t just an unfortunate lapse in judgment—but a calculated manipulation?

Enter narcissism, the toxic ingredient that turns an already troubling behavior into a full-blown financial and emotional catastrophe.

Narcissists weaponize financial secrecy, using it as a tool for control, deception, and ultimately, power.

If you’ve ever felt like you were in a relationship with someone who seemed to gaslight you about money, control financial decisions while keeping you in the dark, or make lavish purchases while insisting you cut costs, this deep dive is for you.

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The Loneliness of the Narcissist: How Grandiosity and Social Exclusion Feed Each Other

Narcissists: the self-absorbed, the masters of self-promotion, the ones who bring their own spotlight to the party and then complain when no one applauds.

They’re the villains in every “toxic relationships” article and the goldmine of pop psychology content.

But what if, beneath the grandiosity and the humble-bragging, narcissists are actually lonely?

What if, despite all their peacocking, they feel left out more often than the average person?

New research suggests exactly that.

A recent study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (Büttner et al., 2024) has found that people with narcissistic traits experience more social exclusion than their less self-absorbed peers.

Not only do they feel left out, but they often are left out.

And, as it turns out, this rejection fuels their narcissism further, locking them into a behavioral doom loop worthy of its own Greek tragedy—or at least a well-placed sitcom subplot.

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How to Spot Love Bombing Early

In the early days of a relationship, everything feels intoxicatingly perfect—constant affection, lavish compliments, grand gestures.

But sometimes, what looks like a fairytale romance is actually a psychological minefield.

Love bombing, a term popularized in the context of narcissistic abuse, refers to an excessive display of affection meant to manipulate, overwhelm, and control a partner.

It’s not just about being swept off your feet; it’s about losing your footing entirely—like stepping onto a banana peel on the way to what you thought was true love.

Modern psychological research suggests that love bombing isn’t just about grand romantic gestures—it’s a cycle of reinforcement and withdrawal that can lead to emotional dependence and even trauma bonding (Levine & Heller, 2010).

Let’s explore what the science says, how to differentiate genuine affection from manipulation, and what to do if you find yourself caught in a love bombing whirlwind. Grab some popcorn—it’s going to get weird.

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What Does Research Say About the "Seven-Year Itch"?

Human relationships, like an old couch or a once-beloved pair of jeans, tend to wear out in places. Somewhere around the seven-year mark, many couples begin to feel a vague, unsettling restlessness—hence the famous "seven-year itch."

The term, popularized by the 1955 Marilyn Monroe film, suggests that romantic partnerships hit a dangerous period of decline after roughly seven years, leading to higher rates of dissatisfaction, infidelity, and divorce. But is there any science behind this claim, or is it just another cultural myth?

The answer, as with most things in psychology, is complicated. The "seven-year itch" isn’t exactly fiction, but it’s also not destiny.

Let’s unpack the research, explore contrary findings, and see what the latest science tells us about relationship longevity.

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7 Signs of Emotional Abuse That You Flat-Out Missed

Let’s get one thing straight: emotional abuse can be sneaky.

It’s the ninja of relational dysfunction—silent, strategic, and often only visible in hindsight.

If you’ve ever looked back on a relationship and thought, Wait a minute, was that… bad?, congratulations, my friend—you might have been emotionally bamboozled.

Emotional abuse doesn’t show up with a neon sign that says, “THIS IS TOXIC.”

It’s more like a slow gas leak. You don’t notice it at first, and then suddenly, you’re dizzy, disoriented, and questioning if you’re the one who’s crazy.

So, let’s break down some of the signs you may have missed while you were too busy blaming yourself for things that weren’t your fault.

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Why Does My Wife Hit Me?

Imagine you’re sitting across from a therapist. Maybe me. Maybe someone else. You clear your throat, you look down, and then you finally say it:

"My wife hits me."

And just like that, the universe seems to malfunction.

You expect disbelief, maybe laughter. Maybe a confused head tilt, like a golden retriever hearing a kazoo. After all, this isn’t how the story is supposed to go.

But here’s the thing: it happens. A lot more than most people want to admit.

And because I like telling the truth about therapy, even when it makes people squirm, let's talk about it.

Let’s talk about why women hit first, why men often don’t hit back, and why nobody wants to acknowledge the whole messy, contradictory, and deeply human reality of domestic violence.

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Is Your Family Trading Down?

Family life in 2025 is becoming increasingly difficult because, financial strain is often an uninvited yet influential partner.

When economic pressures mount, families may find themselves "trading down," adjusting their lifestyles to accommodate reduced means.

This phenomenon extends beyond mere dollars and cents, deeply influencing the emotional and relational dynamics within the family system.

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n this post, I’ll delve into the social science of financial belt-tightening, so we can uncover the multifaceted impacts on family relationships, and explore evidence-based interventions to foster resilience and cohesion.

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Sexual Shame: The Hidden Barrier to Women’s Intimacy and Fulfillment

Sexual intimacy is often idealized as a source of pleasure, connection, and fulfillment. Yet, for many women, it is also entangled with a powerful, often unspoken force—sexual shame.

A new review published in Sexes suggests that sexual shame can suppress sexual arousal and desire, leading to diminished sexual functioning and overall relationship dissatisfaction (Graziani & Chivers, 2024).

Rooted in a complex web of biological, psychological, and cultural influences, sexual shame can profoundly impact a woman’s self-perception, sense of worth, and ability to experience intimacy.

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A Look at the Dark-Ego Link Between Psychopathy, Narcissism, and Antisemitism

An interesting recent study published in Current Psychology forces us to confront a disquieting reality: certain personality traits—namely, narcissism and psychopathy—can fuel antisemitic beliefs.

Researchers Ann Krispenz and Alex Bertrams from the University of Bern identify these beliefs as 'dark-ego vehicles,' meaning they serve as outlets for self-centered needs like dominance, aggression, and moral posturing.

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Boobs, Brands, and Banality: How Everything Super Bowl Became Softcore

Ladies and Gentlemen, Children of the Algorithm, gather 'round!

Did you enjoy your Super Bowl? The touchdowns, the beers, the commercials selling your greatest insecurities back to you?

Well, let's talk about the real MVP—breasts.

Novartis, our friendly pharmaceutical overlord, brought you a bouncing, cantaloupe-colored PSA: 'Get screened for breast cancer, you degenerates! You stare at boobs all day anyway!'

An excellent cause, yes.

But the delivery? Pure Cinemax After Dark, raising the question: how does blending a health message with softcore aesthetics affect public trust?

When health campaigns become indistinguishable from soft porn, is the message amplified—or trivialized?

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Is Hatred of Scientists Becoming a Thing?

Because I was one of the founders of what is perhaps the largest science-based couples therapy practice in the world, I enjoy many scientists and researchers as clients. Many have entered therapy to manage their social anxiety.

Why? So, it turns out some people hate scientists.

Not just the kind of hate where you roll your eyes at some nerd in a lab coat, but the kind of hate that gets scientists harassed, threatened, and, in at least one case, nearly mobbed in Amsterdam.

Why? Because of science cynicism, which is just a fancy way of saying, "I don’t trust those guys because they seem smart and therefore must be up to something."

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