Polyamory vs. Monogamy: Why Polygyny Is Not Man's “Natural State” (And Why Monogamy Wins)

Polyamory—the trend that just won’t die, no matter how many uncomfortable dinner party conversations it causes. For the uninitiated, polyamory is the supposed “evolution” of romantic relationships, where having multiple partners is embraced as the ultimate path to emotional freedom.

And really, what could be better than trying to balance three relationships while ensuring none of your partners cross paths in a group chat?

But hold on—polyamory advocates have come up with a new angle: citing polygyny as proof that humans, especially men, are biologically wired for multiple partners.

According to them, if our ancient ancestors did it, modern men should too.

Well, they’re wrong.

Let’s break down why polyamory isn’t the enlightened relationship model it claims to be and why monogamy is the real winner when it comes to stability, trust, and emotional connection.

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How Husbands of Employed Wives in South Korea Are Experiencing Greater Happiness and Self-Esteem

As marriage dynamics are constantly evolving, one heartening trend is emerging: husbands of employed wives are reporting significantly higher levels of happiness and self-esteem.

This discovery, highlighted in a recent study published in Personal Relationships, reveals fascinating insights into the relationship between self-esteem, marital satisfaction, and the profound impact a wife’s employment status can have on her husband’s well-being.

As a couples therapist and published researcher in labor studies, I’m excited to unpack these findings and explore how modern couples can build thriving, supportive marriages—especially when both partners work.

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Yuval Noah Harari and the Meaning of Marriage and Family

Yuval Noah Harari’s reflections on the family, particularly as explored in Sapiens (2014) and Homo Deus (2016), provide a rich basis for examining how family structures, roles, and relationships have evolved and will continue to evolve due to social, technological, and economic factors.

His ideas resonate with those of other thought leaders who have also contemplated the future of family and kinship systems, such as Sherry Turkle, Margaret Mead, and Zygmunt Bauman.

This post will explore Harari’s thoughts will explore themes such as the evolution of the family unit, the impact of technology, individualism, and future adaptations of marriage and family therapy practice in the age of artificial intelligence and biotechnology.

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Sam Harris and his Ideas on Science and Secular Spirituality, and Their Application in Therapy

Sam Harris is well-known thought leader, known for his exploration of consciousness, free will, and secular spirituality offers fertile ground for marriage and family therapy.

By drawing on his ideas, therapists can blend secular, neuroscience-informed practices with the spiritual longing that many clients bring into therapy, particularly in their intimate relationships.

Through a blend of mindfulness, ego dissolution, and insights into the limits of free will, Harris invites us to reconsider how we view human behavior and relationships.

These ideas are supported by a growing body of research in psychology and neuroscience that illuminates the importance of mindfulness, unconscious processes, and trauma recovery in relational well-being.

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Silent Standoffs: How Demand-Withdrawal Hurts Both Your Sex Life and Relationship

A recent study published in The Journal of Sex Research sheds light on an important communication pattern known as demand-withdrawal, and how it impacts couples during discussions about sexual conflicts.

The research found that couples who often fall into this dynamic tend to experience lower levels of both relationship and sexual satisfaction. Over time, they also report higher sexual distress and a general decline in how happy they feel in their relationship.

The research team wanted to dig into how couples handle sexual conflicts specifically, which hasn’t been studied as much as other relationship challenges.

Talking about sex can be tricky—these conversations often bring up feelings like shame, fear, or anger, making it harder to openly discuss problems. When communication around sexual issues falters, it can harm intimacy and overall well-being, leaving both partners feeling disconnected.

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What is Rusbult's Investment Model? A Deep Dive into Commitment and Relationship Longevity

When it comes to understanding why people stay in relationships—or leave them—Caryl Rusbult’s Investment Model is one of the most insightful and influential frameworks in social psychology.

Developed in the 1980s, Rusbult's Investment Model offers a comprehensive explanation of commitment in relationships, focusing on three critical factors: satisfaction, quality of alternatives, and investment.

John Gottman, one of the most renowned relationship experts, has praised Rusbult's work for its depth and accuracy, often referring to her research when discussing long-term relationship dynamics.

In this post, we'll explore the nuances of Rusbult's Investment Model, explaining each component in detail and demonstrating why it remains a key theory in understanding romantic relationships.

We'll also highlight Gottman’s reflections on Rusbult’s legacy, emphasizing the significant impact of her work in the field of relationship psychology.

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Strategic Partnership Marriage: The Future of Love, Wealth, and Legacy

Marriage has long been viewed as a union built on love and companionship. But for an increasing number of couples—particularly in the American upper class—there is a shift happening.

The strategic partnership marriage is a rising trend that blends emotional connection with a shared commitment to building long-term financial stability, social status, and legacy.

This approach treats marriage as not just a romantic endeavor but a joint venture, where partners work together like co-CEOs to manage their family’s wealth, parenting strategies, and social positioning.

In this post, we will dive deep into the strategic partnership marriage model, explore how it’s shaping modern relationships, and why it’s poised to dominate the future of marriage.

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Hyposexual Desire Disorder: Understanding a Common but Often Overlooked Issue

Hyposexual Desire Disorder (HSDD) might sound like a mouthful, but at its core, it's about something many people can relate to—a persistent lack of interest in sex.

It’s not just about having an “off week” or feeling stressed; it’s when this lack of desire becomes a pattern that causes personal distress or strains a relationship.

HSDD can affect anyone, though it’s more often reported by women. It’s recognized as a legitimate medical condition and is something worth talking about openly.

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Why Men Marry: A Deep Dive into Social, Cultural, and Psychological Factors

Why do men marry? To answer this question, I’ll discuss related themes like love, commitment, societal expectations, and cultural variations, with a special focus on how attachment theory intersects with cultural influences.

Marriage, a timeless institution, has been the cornerstone of societies for centuries.

While the reasons men marry can vary widely, understanding the underlying motivations requires a deep dive into social, cultural, and psychological factors.

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Under Pressure: How Sexual Performance Anxiety Affects Us All and What We Can Do About It

Sexual performance anxiety is like that uninvited guest who shows up at the worst possible time.

It’s something many of us have faced, yet its impact on relationships often remains unspoken.

But here’s the thing: sexual performance anxiety isn’t just a “men’s issue,” and it’s not something we should sweep under the rug.

So, let’s explore what sexual performance anxiety really means, how it plays out differently for men and women, and most importantly, what we can do to keep it from hijacking our love lives.

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The sheer, untrammeled joy of Midlife Renovations

As we journey through life, there comes a time when we pause, look around, and realize that things have changed.

The home we built—both literally and metaphorically—might be showing signs of wear and tear.

Just as we might consider renovating our physical spaces to better suit our current needs, we can also consider "renovating" our relationships during midlife.

This concept of midlife renovations offers couples a chance to refresh, reinvigorate, and recommit to their partnership for the next chapter of life.

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The Invisible Load: how to unburden your relationship before it breaks

Intimate relationships thrive on balance, yet many couples find themselves tipping precariously due to an often unseen burden—the invisible load.

This term captures the mental, emotional, and cognitive labor required to manage a household and family life, much of which goes unrecognized and unshared.

The weight of this invisible load can strain relationships to the breaking point, leading to resentment, burnout, and emotional distance.

What is the Invisible Load?

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