6/18/24. Daniel Things are going great! The kids are getting older and a little easier to manage, also the nice weather has given everyone a lot of opportunity to spend time outside.

 Mary and I are really enjoying our time together. We have a lot of vacation time planned this summer and have some events and shows scheduled to attend for date nights.

Mary has been an amazing CEO of the family, managing the Kids, the house, her career, and my needs (all very demanding).

She is the rock that this family is built upon and we are all so grateful for the effort and dedication she puts into loving and supporting us!

Again, thank you for your help saving our wonderful family. I thank Mary often as she carried the heaviest burden by far. You gave her and I the tools to be successful and for that we will be eternally grateful!

6/2/24 Daniel, Whenever I think of you, and it is more often than you might imagine, I am always filled with gratitude(there's that word again) for all your wise counsel and guidance…

I am fairly certain that without it, I would not be in this happy position with my partner and my family. 

There are changes that I am planning on making in 2025. 

I plan to give my band notice in late summer of this year so that they can find a replacement, if they want to continue.

I will stay until they find a replacement.  This is a hard decision, and I could still change my mind, but I think I am ready for a change for many different reasons.  I plan to focus more on my painting and getting more involved in a worthwhile cause in 2025.

I'd also like the flexibility to have my weekends open and not have to plan so far in advance.  My partner wouldn't ever want me to give up the band for him… but I do think it will afford more quality time to spend with my family.  

WE ARE GRATEFUL FOR BEING IN THIS PLACE…

Daniel,

I'm sorry we haven't reached out sooner. It’s something we discuss often. We have been great! We are actually in Florida right now on vacation with our daughter. (We left our son with my mother.)

Our relationship is the best it has ever been. We are extremely close, have been spending a lot of time together out having fun, making sure there is no “fun deficit” and we are definitely in a “positive sentiment override”.

We feel like all of the trouble we went through has brought us to this special place in our relationship, we are very grateful for being in this place, I just wish I took an easier, less painful path to get us here!

Also, I was promoted again two months ago and am now running the manufacturing and supply chain side of our business, so my career is continuing to go well.

Anyway, thank you for all of your help getting us here. We will be eternally grateful for your guidance getting us here, you knew we could get here well before we could see it (your instincts with us were strong, and you were right… as always).

WHERE TO START?…DANIEL WAS AWESOME!

Our relationship was in real trouble. We were disconnected from each other and didn't know how to bridge the gap. My real fear was that it wouldn't work or my husband would be uncooperative.

Where to start? Daniel Dashnaw was AWESOME. We appreciated his candor, honesty, kindness, sensitivity, practical - solutions based approach.

We have a much better understanding of each other and were given a set of tools that put us on the path to recovery. 1. We got to the root of our troubles, 2. we know how to repair our relationship, 3. I learned how to address my own challenges.

I am truly, deeply grateful.

INDIVIDUAL THERAPY MADE THINGS WORSE…DANIEL IS AANE (Asperger/Autism Network) CERTIFIED AND WAS AMAZING!

We had separated and wanted reconcile but didn't know how to move forward in a healthy manner due to our neurodiversity. Individual therapy made things worse.

Daniel is AANE (Asperger/Autism Network) certified and was amazing.

He had a clear understanding of neurodiverse couples and individuals with CPTSD (complex post traumatic stress disorder). We reconciled and have a stronger foundation for our marriage.

We now have tools to communicate better based on how the other person thinks and processes information. I no longer interpret my husband's behaviour based on my own NT (neurotypical) filter and make up stories in my head that may not be true.

We could not find an AANE certified couples therapist that also does intensives, until we found Daniel.

What would you say to couples considering working with Daniel Dashnaw?

Do it! Your marriage is worth the investment.

IT’S THE FINAL DITCH EFFORT TO SAVE SOMETHING VALUABLE… DANIEL GAVE ME VALUABLE TOOLS FOR WORKING WITH MY HUSBAND AND NOT AGAINST HIM…

Our relationship was strained and disconnected and previous therapy was not successful at all.

We wanted something intensive but private but we weren’t sure what would be expected.

Our therapist, Daniel gave me valuable tools for working with my husband and not against him, as well as ideas on how to improve the way we talk to each other.

Daniel was really great. He’s knowledgeable, yet not preachy.

He respected us enough to not tell us what we wanted to hear. He was very clear about what his role would be and what we would get out of the experience.

I really liked his candor. He was straight up and didn’t sugar coat anything. I really appreciated that about him.

I found him engaging, yet authoritative enough that I knew he was the “teacher”. I respected his experience and input.

We have a better understanding of each other and what we can not change. We have the tools to argue more effectively and talk to each other with more respect. We have gained more insight into how to approach our daughters.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Daniel Dashnaw?

Do it! Without hesitation. The few people I told about Daniel wish they had seen him themselves before their divorces. It’s the final ditch effort to save something valuable.

HE SEEMED TO GENUINELY WANT US TO STAY TOGETHER...

Dan's most admirable quality as our therapist was that he seemed to genuinely want us to stay together and work to fix our marriage.

I never felt like he was just coldly and indifferently going through the academic motions of a therapist.

His input felt more like a family member with a lot of training and wisdom advising us on how to better communicate, understand each other, and unpack our various individual and joint issues.

Dan had a genuine humility, which made his, at times, challenging demands of us much more palatable. I never felt bullied or obligated to do anything.

WE APPRECIATED THE WAY DANIEL WAS ABLE TO GIVE US ACTUAL SOLUTIONS

We were continually getting into a loop of negative sentiment override. It was perpetual and we couldn't get out of the loop

[Previous couples therapy] was not a great result. 50 minute sessions only aggravated the situation and started the fights.

Daniel’s blog columns that we read, and then the few zoom meetings we had with him, made this option seem viable. We needed to do something else as what we were doing was not working.

The financial and time commitment and the fact that insurance would not cover it was difficult to swallow.

We appreciated the way Daniel was able to give us actual solutions.

He was very thorough with each of us and remembered and implemented a lot of what he learned in the BIG BIG Book. He seemed to really know our situation before we even began.

Daniel has a different approach than the usual therapist.

He understood our situation and was able to help us make corrections. The fact that this was in the middle of no where was beneficial. There was nothing else to do but focus on our relationship in a calming environment.

We learned things to implement in times of stress and that we should protect our son from our arguments as it will increase the negative chemicals in his body.

We understand each other a little better. We have not gotten in the daily arguments. We have become closer and a bit of the "old time" spark has come to the surface.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Daniel Dashnaw?

It is something you cannot afford to put off. The alternative is much more expensive.

[I WAS] UNSURE IF MY PARTNER WOULD PARTICIPATE 100%

We were unsure if the marriage would survive.

We choseDaniel because of the methods he employed, online information, testimonials, and his weekend intensive program.

I was unsure if my partner would participate 100%.

Daniel was straight forward, sincere, gave real-life examples, intuitive, knew how to communicate with each person and help them see the other person's perspective.

Easy to talk with and provided direct and pertinent information.

He understood what you were saying and needed. He helped you communicate your needs to each other. He provided tools and direction for the relationship.

Daniel was genuinely interested in helping us both and did not take sides.

He gave our marriage a chance, and hope for a better relationship and met each of our needs.

We have improved communication. we identified how individual traumas affected us. We got tools to continue to improve our relationship and tools to help deal with infidelity/coping mechanisms.

What would you say to couples who are considering working with Daniel Dashnaw?

Read the profiles and testimonials and then speak to the therapist you feel you might want to work with. Speaking at length with Daniel before we made our final decision was extremely helpful.

If you do not reside in the state of the therapist be sure to ask about follow-up sessions if you do the intensive weekend. You may wonder about the pre-work assigned for the intensive weekend but it is amazing how important it is and that you are 100% honest in your responses.

Anything else you’d like to add?

Dan Dashnaw was wonderful to work with. I am grateful for him because I don't feel we may still be married without either.

Thank you so much for the critical information on your website that is accessible to anyone and truly helpful.

HOWEVER DIFFICULT THIS PAST YEAR HAS BEEN FOR MY HUSBAND AND I, ONE THING IS FOR CERTAIN...

Daniel, It would have been much more difficult if we did not have your support.

While it wasn't until later in life you chose this path, I am grateful that you did! From our very first encounter, I could tell you were genuine, kind, and, best of all, downright blunt!

Those qualities are just what I needed to help guide me down the path of self-reflection....

Thank you for giving us a safe place to talk, cry, laugh, and, in my case, shut down.

Our time spent with you has had a tremendous impact on our relationship and has helped us both take the time to reflect on what we need to focus on going forward.

Your support and guidance this past year will have a lasting impact on me throughout my life...I believe in my heart that you were put on this earth to help people, and I am genuinely grateful I was among those people.

Words cannot express how thankful I am for everything.

IT WAS IN CRISIS DUE TO A LONG-TERM AFFAIR

Hesitations? I really had none.

I wanted to save my marriage and I had no other good options at the time. We tried couples therapy in the past, and it was unsuccessful. Our marriage was in crisis due to a long-term affair.

The core issues we wished to determine if we both wished to work to save our marriage, to gain a clearer understanding of why and how the affair started, and problems that existed in our marriage before the affair that made it possible.

We gained some understanding of how and why the affair started, and we were both able to make a commitment to work to save our marriage.

Daniel was knowledgeable, direct with us, and able to connect with us both; he was sincere, caring, empathetic, and understanding. I could not have asked for anyone more helpful than he.

Benefits?

An understanding of how and why my affair happened, an understanding of how to be more helpful to my spouse to promote healing, how to deal with anger.

I believe I will wish to have additional ongoing sessions after the two included to ensure we are on the right track, to help us through difficult problems as they develop, and to answer questions we have.

I would recommend Daniel to anyone needing therapy for Marital issues, which is incredibly intensive, which I found very helpful.

Thanks for being there.

YOU WON'T REGRET YOUR DECISION TO WORK WITH DANIEL DASHNAW

Our relationship was at its lowest point. We tried a few therapists for about 10 years. We both always left frustrated and like we had so much more to discuss and didn't really get any answers or make much progress at all.

We liked the idea of an intensive weekend for just the 2 of us. Our only hesitation was just lack of hope based on past experiences.

Daniel Dashnaw was fantastic for us!

He was very direct and honest and that is exactly what we needed. We are communicating much better and understand how and why we react the way we do.

We would highly recommend Daniel!

He was simply the best counselor we have ever worked with.

He has a vast knowledge the dynamics of relationships. He gets right to the point with the issue and is direct but still in a very caring way.

We have a better understanding of each other and our emotions, much improved communication, and tools to keep both of those in check.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Daniel Dashnaw?

Trust me, you won't regret your decision to work with him.

IT WAS LIFE CHANGING AND MARRIAGE SAVING

My husband had threatened to leave. Past infidelity continued to haunt us.

We tried three different "therapists," but none of them understood our issues and tried to minimize them. We didn't feel that we were heard or understood.

When we chose Daniel, we were looking for an expert.

We didn't know whether one weekend would make a difference and whether virtual sessions would be effective.

Daniel thoroughly reviewed our background information; a skillful analysis with a frank approach.

We felt that he understood us and had the skills and commitment to help. He built rapport and trust early in the process so we could freely discuss our issues.

He reminded us of what we were doing right and coached us on improving in the weaker areas.

It was life-changing and marriage-saving! We got perspective on our issues; we learned how to communicate; we love and appreciate each other.

What would you say to couples who are considering working with Daniel Dashnaw?

If you put in the effort and want things to improve, you will likely see a major improvement in your relationship. This is nothing like the other counseling we tried. I am glad we did not stop searching for help.

The costs is far less than a Divorce

DANIEL IS A HERO FOR BOTH MY WIFE AND ME. WE OFTEN TOAST TO HIM.

We had one old issue of unfaithfulness and lies from early in our now 38-year relationship, which flares up from time to time. We can’t talk about it without both getting very angry and hurt.

I went to therapy myself a few times, but alone and with no significant help at all. My wife never went to therapy.

My wife found Daniel by searching the web and liked it better than the others she looked at (we agreed she would pick a place to get help).

Daniel Dashnaw is brilliantly good!

Several things stood out: he was diving right in and focused on resolving issues.

Two, he is extremely knowledgeable and can put issues into both theoretical and practical contexts.

Three, he immediately understood my wife and the role abuse had played in her life AND he made sure I understood it also as part of sorting me out.

Fourth, Daniel is not hesitant to bring up any issue, yet he shows respect and passion.

We found both the overall approach and the therapist excellent. We dealt with the real issues and made huge progress. It was truly relationship-changing and for the better.

We are dealing with the old issue. We know that Daniel Dashnaw exists and can be called on if needed. He also gave good tools. We understand our “old overvalued problem” and why it never was resolved.

Just that Daniel is a hero for both my wife and me, we often toast to him.

WHAT CAN I SAY? HE WAS PERFECT!

What can I say? He was perfect!

There was infidelity and illness. Daniel was fair and understood the issues.

He was the best therapist we have encountered with a specialty of infidelity and mental illness.

DANIEL WAS FORTHRIGHT ABOUT ISSUES… BUT SUPPORTIVE AT THE SAME TIME

Invest in your relationship and take the plunge.

Daniel was forthright about issues but supportive at the same time, able to really state when he saw effort and success but not shirking from when issues were staring him in the face.

MY INDUSTRY FRIENDS IN LA TOLD ME ABOUT DANIEL… HE GETS POWER COUPLES…

Daniel Dashnaw’s name was given to me by friends of mine who were struggling with a situation that was entangling and escalating them “He was just what we needed,” they told me. I also found that to be true. Daniel Dashnaw does not disappoint.

THANK YOU, DANIEL DASHNAW, FOR MAKING OUR TRANSITION FROM ANGRY TO LOVING. THE EXERCISES HAS GIVEN US A MUCH BRIGHTER FUTURE

Daniel Dashnaw got straight to the point of our issues without judgment or blame game - nothing negative. Hats off to him!

We now have a deeper respect and knowledge of what our partner is truly thinking when we are playing a much different scenario of the situation in our own minds

. Two and a half days seems like it is not enough time to get to the root of our issues, but it was.

Now we aren’t assuming what is going on in our partner's mind. We have tools to work thru our anger with one another.

Thank you, Daniel Dashnaw, for making our transition from angry to loving. The exercises and tools have given us a much brighter future.

I FEEL LIKE A NEW PERSON, PARTNER, FRIEND AND HUSBAND

I was not sure that my wife could be real with me or herself.

We had tried just regular therapy. Nothing like this. I told Daniel to hold no punches, that our marriage depended on him!

After 37 years and two marriages, I was able to be heard! I also learned how I added to our problems with the way I communicated. I learned how to communicate in a positive way.

I feel like a new person, partner, friend and husband. I feel that we will be happy with each other and get closer to each other again. Our marriage will start to grow as we implement what we learned!

I was heard which made me look at our marriage in a totally different and positive way. I learned that we had a great marriage but had to learn to communicate in a much better way."

DANIEL DIDN’T CHOOSE SIDES; HE WAS FAIR

We were miserable; dealing with insecurity, jealousy, control issues, and family/in in- law issues. We feared things would escalate further; however we both felt comfortable & safe with our therapist.

Daniel is skilled, knowledgeable, and patient.

Daniel didn’t choose sides; he was fair. It helped clarify our feelings. Understand each other’s world, anxiety issues and developmental trauma due to upbringing. We are working on communicating better and reconnecting.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Daniel? …Seek the help!

WE HAD TRIED JUST REGULAR COUPLES THERAPY. IT WAS NOTHING LIKE THIS. I WOULD DO THIS AGAIN, IF NEEDED. DANIEL PULLED NO PUNCHES!

At first, I was hesitant because of my wife's pill use. I was not sure that she could be real with me or herself. I told Daniel to hold no punches, that our marriage depended on him!

We had tried just regular therapy. Nothing like this. I would do this again if needed! He held no punches! Dan did what was needed to save our marriage! I wanted us to get along with each other. To be able to communicate with each other without fighting.

I wanted to improve our intimacy with each other. After 37 years and two marriages, I was able to be heard! I also learned how I added to our problems with the way I communicated. I learned how to communicate in a positive way. I feel like a new person, partner, friend and husband.

I feel that we will be happy with each other and get closer to each other again. Our marriage will start to grow as we implement what we learned!

I was heard which made me look at our marriage in a totally different and positive way. I learned that we had a great marriage but had to learn to communicate in a much better way, the way we communicated sucked!

I strongly endorse couples therapist,Daniel Dashnaw. When couples have problems like we had, this would be the only way to correct them. Seeing someone for 45-minutes once a week would not work.

I WOULD HIGHLY, HIGHLY, HIGHLY RECOMMEND DANIEL TO ANY COUPLE WHO IS STRUGGLING

My relationship was in trouble. We were dealing with a lot of outside stressors and didn’t have the skills to cope as a couple. We really wanted to learn skills and tools that we could use while managing our stress.

We were impressed with his careful assessment and science-based approach.

We also loved that your therapy was rooted in the Gottman Method and that you offered weekend intensive.

I absolutely loved Daniel’s directness and the fact that he was honest with us about our pain points, but also highlighted what we did well as a couple.

He shared just enough information about himself to make both of us feel comfortable and we quickly felt at ease with him. He has a great sense of humor, which was

appreciated. He also really took the time to learn about us in advance of the intensive, and I really felt as though he was very prepared when we arrived. As a result, we were able to accomplish a lot and I’m so thrilled with our progress during the intensive with Daniel.

I honestly don’t think there’s anything I can say that I didn’t like about working with Daniel! We truly enjoyed our intensive and we’re so grateful for his time with us this past weekend! Oh, and Jack (the dog) was such a wonderful addition to our sessions.

We are better communicators and just more respectful of each other. I feel that the therapy gave us a lot of insight into our damaging & counterproductive behaviors and what we could be doing instead to foster a safer/more loving/fulfilling relationship.

We’re more connected and “in tune” as a couple.

I would highly, highly, highly recommend Daniel to any couple who is struggling. He really gets to the heart of what’s going on and works with you to understand how you can improve yourself so that you are a better partner. I really liked his style and working with him was worth every penny.

THIS WAS PERFECT… BECAUSE IT WAS INTENSIVE AND IN ONE SHOT

Our relationship was good overall but needed to bring more balance in decision making and better connection/communication. We had considered other couples therapists before but honestly, we don't have the time to go for an hour a week every week.

This was perfect because it was intensive and in one shot. Daniel was very insightful and direct in his approach. He also brought some perspectives I had not really considered as part of our issues (higher intelligence/processing speed and the impact that has on our interactions).

He was appropriately confrontative without being harsh. He was able to quickly assess our primary issues and help us work on them.

We are definitely more aware of my approach to managing everyone in the house. We are trying to focus on slowing down and finding more moments of connection.

We have prioritizing connection, better communication with each other and the kids, and feeling like we have some tools if things start to slip. I do wonder how it works with couples who are in more distress, given there is so much pressure to be appropriately interactive during the therapy.

But overall, I do think that the approaches used would help any couple who was committed to trying to implement the techniques.”

OUR THERAPIST WAS DANIEL DASHNAW. WHERE TO START?…HE WAS AWESOME!

Our relationship was in real trouble. We were disconnected from each other and didn't know how to bridge the gap. Hesitations?

My real fear was that it wouldn't work or my husband would be uncooperative. Our therapist was Daniel Dashnaw. Where to start? He was AWESOME.

We appreciated his candor, honesty, kindness, sensitivity, practical - solutions based approach.

Would you recommend Daniel Dashnaw?

ABSOLUTELY.

Practical Outcome? We have a much better understanding of each other and were given a set of tools that put us on the path to recover.

1- We got to the root of our troubles,

2- we know how to repair our relationship,

3- I learned how to address my own challenges. Not sure, how else to be helpful. Additional follow-ups as/if needed. I am truly, deeply grateful.

It is truly an investment in the fitness of your marriage and future happiness.

DANIEL GAVE US THE FLASHLIGHT…

We were deeply submerged in negative sentiment override. Our communication was prone to escalation in the majority of interactions. There was no mutual understanding. Our fighting was overflowing to fighting in front of our young son.

We have seen multiple therapists.

Our experience was disappointing and damaging. We wasted time, energy and money on years of once-a-week therapy that created tons of tension and did more harm than good. We would leave the time constrained sessions feeling angry at each other and it would ruin our weekend.

The friction was very disruptive. After a while I started to think we were not good as a married couple considering all the therapy that didn't work for us. For reference, we were using the insurance model and seeing EFT and Gottman-trained therapists.

First of all we are in negative sentiment override with therapy. Nothing had delivered relief to us in the past. We did not view therapy in a positive light.

The commitment of an entire weekend out of state was daunting. Scheduling time away is a complicated endeavor for busy people. Given our checkered past with couples therapy, the cost was a blind investment without knowing we would achieve the desired outcome. The entire process was a giant leap of faith for us. Desperation + a novel approach to therapy = giant leap of faith

I found an article about passive-aggressive behavior written by Daniel Dashnaw that spoke volumes to both my spouse and me. His words resonated deeply with me.

It was Jan. 1, 2021: New Years Day. My husband and I had a fight on New Year's Eve, and I was desperate enough to be looking for answers on the internet as to a possible next course of action to heal our marriage. Unbelievably, I found the answers with Marriage and family therapist, Daniel Dashnaw.

Right away I was struck with his intimate knowledge of our family of origin information. I was relieved all of the effort in completing this requirement was put to good use.

It felt like both teams showed up.

I was pleased that he was trained in three models of therapy and applied the relevant technical aspects to us as needed.

It was particularly brilliant of Daniel to discover the neurodiverse/neurotypical component to our relationship and how it impacted our interactions.

I am grateful he is a self-admitted passive-aggressive and could relate to our situation in an intimate way that only such a person could. Daniel also used humor and concrete analogies to drive his points home which was very effective for both of us.

He was proficient at focusing on each of us as individuals and as a unit which reflected his sophisticated technique and made us very comfortable.

Our comfort level was present right away.

There was no awkward ramp-up time, largely due to Daniel's approach. It was an excellent fit for us as a couple and as individuals. I agree with Daniel's viewpoint on swearing and the fact that we share this perspective added a layer of authenticity to the experience.

He was also well versed in the psychological ramifications of our cultural backgrounds which no other therapist had ever considered. Nor was this facet evident to us until our encounter with Daniel.

This was a novel approach to our issues and it tapped into a very important component of our marriage. We greatly appreciated that he held our son in constant focus as part of the therapy. It felt comprehensive.

I felt at ease all the while despite the fact that we were operating in uncomfortable territory the entire time. This says a lot about the therapist.

Also, he did not overuse the interventions. When he did use them, it was not in a trite way. I have a low tolerance for cheesy tropes. However, I felt his use of interventions was just the right amount and did teach some valuable skills.

So far we are trying hard to utilize the skills and apply the concepts we learned at the intensive. I think we are carrying the understanding we developed with Daniel in our everyday lives.

We made space for the understanding and continued to respect the understanding we gained. We have already employed some techniques and tricks we crafted in the intensive at home. I see a huge change in my partner and it has been maintained even weeks after the intensive.

It feels like we have turned the page from negative to positive sentiment override.

I am most astonished at this progress. The best way to sum it up is to say that the difference is walking the path of marriage in the dark or with a flashlight.

Daniel gave us the flashlight.

Our dear friends who just had a baby wanted Daniel's contact information after hearing about our intensive experience. I passed it on to them because I believe he can help them as he helped us. Daniel taught us about the pitfalls of the weekly 45-minute therapy insurance model, and I don't want our friends to make the same mistake and waste time, energy, and money with this model.

What would you say to couples who are considering working with Daniel Dashnaw?

Make the leap of faith as long as both of you connect with the therapist. Do not be thwarted by the time commitment or cost. It is truly an investment in the fitness of your marriage and future happiness. It was a shock to us, but turns out you can have fun while healing your marriage.

MY HUSBAND HAS ALWAYS BEEN RELUCTANT TO PARTICIPATE IN COUNSELING, AND WE HAD COMMUNICATION DIFFICULTIES, AMONG OTHER ISSUES.

Daniel quickly assessed our core issues and addressed them head-on. He provided tools and methods for us to engage each other more deeply and intimately. We appreciated his knowledge and professionalism.

Dan alerted us to things about ourselves that we were unaware of. He used data-based references to come to helpful and enlightening conclusions while providing references for us to explore. We felt that he adapted the counseling session to meet our specific needs.

We enjoyed Dan's rapport and the immediate connection that we felt. It was Wonderful!

We are delighted that we chose to participate in this couples therapy program. We learned to hear more of the underlying feelings of each other and how to respond more positively. We have expanded our vocabulary in ways that are more beneficial and productive.

We have a better understanding of why we, as individuals, behave the way we do. We've learned how to listen, respond, and communicate more effectively. We've learned to appreciate the many positive aspects of our relationship.

We liked this approach to couples therapy, and we would personally recommend our therapist, Daniel Dashnaw.

A MAN OF WISDOM…

I just wanted to thank you for providing me with the opportunity to work with Daniel Dashnaw. It has been a wonderful experience and a true source of joy during a very difficult time in my life. He is a man of wisdom and I truly enjoyed the learning adventure he so skillfully crafted with me.

INVEST IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND TAKE THE PLUNGE

We felt a deep bond and history together but were in a gridlock. This likely had to do with certain incidents which revealed some deeper attachment wounds. I also had not adjusted myself and my vision with the stage of life we are now in.....We wanted to address these issues and get our relationship back on track.

We had done some couples therapy very early in our relationship that helped us align ourselves and get married.

Besides that, we met with someone a few years after the incident that disrupted our balance. It helped us understand what happened on a superficial level but had very little lasting benefit, and we only attended a handful of sessions. This person did emotion-focused therapy.

We felt we needed desperate action. We were both at the point where we could see the possibility of the end of our relationship and that was not profoundly what I really wanted.

The cost was a challenge, and that included the need to fly to Boston and rent a place, but we felt it was worth risking this because the cost of our relationship's survival was also very high.

We definitely got to deeper understanding of the present state of our relationship and of the incidents that opened up some of our old wounds. We learned tools that we are just about to implement and I do feel more of a commitment and hope to make our marriage vital again.

Daniel Dashnaw is very knowledgeable as a person in general which made him interesting and helpful.

He knew a lot about our religious background which gave a comfort to us. He shared and disclosed some of his personal history appropriately and helpfully. He was forthright about issues but supportive at the same time, able to really state when he saw effort and success but not shirking from when issues were staring him in the face.

I noticed by the Sunday he seemed a bit weary and that impacted me a little but he did hang in there to the end. We did some important work that day.

I would highly recommend Daniel to couples who have reached an impasse. I also believe the weekly therapy rarely gets to the depths of the problems and this intensive type seems much more valuable. The main block for most people is the cost.

It allowed our deeper commitment to emerge and rejuvenated our drive to improve the relationship.

It got us to a deeper level of understanding of each other and why we behave as we do.

It gave us some tangible tools to work with.

I feel the experience was very valuable to us as a couple.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Daniel Dashnaw?

Invest in your relationship and take the plunge.

WE ARE VERY PLEASED…

My husband has always been reluctant to participating in counseling and we had communication difficulties among other issues.

Daniel quickly assessed our core issues and addressed them head-on.

He provided tools and methods for us to engage each other on a deeper and more intimate level. We appreciated his knowledge and professionalism.

Dan alerted us to things about ourselves that we were unaware of.

He used data-based references to come to conclusions that were helpful and enlightening while providing references for us to explore.

We felt that he adapted the counseling session to meet our specific needs. We enjoyed Dan's rapport and the immediate connection that we felt. Wonderful!

We are very pleased that we chose to participate in this couples therapy program. We learned to hear more of the underlying feelings of each other and how to respond in more positive ways.

We have expanded our vocabulary in ways that are more beneficial and productive. We have a better understanding of why we as individuals behave the way we do.

We've learned how to listen, respond and communicate more effectively. We've learned to appreciate the many positive aspects of our relationship.

We liked this approach to couples therapy and we would personally recommend our therapist, Daniel Dashnaw.

Daniel IS DIRECT, IMMERSIVE, INTERACTIVE, SMART, AND TRULY INVESTED IN OUR SUCCESS…

We really needed to unpack our communications problems. We are great professional communicators, but we weren't doing a good job between the two of us.

What made you choose Daniel Dashnaw?

My amazing wife found him, thankfully! Daniel's specialty in dealing with weight loss surgery patients was a big driver.

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with us?

Nothing. We wanted and needed this ... And most importantly, we were ready for it.

And our communication has improved exponentially. We know how to successfully reach each other's nervous system in a positive way so we can both be heard and understood. The tools we learned with Daniel are invaluable in every phase of our lives.

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?

Daniel is direct, immersive, interactive, smart, and truly invested in our success. His use of real-life examples of couples we can relate to was incredibly helpful and something we still talk about. He gave us a lot of latitude to be ourselves and explore communications styles and techniques that work specifically for us.

That was a true blessing.

Would you recommend Daniel Dashnaw? If so, why? If not, why not?

Absolutely yes!

What three benefits resulted from working with Couples therapy Inc.?

Communications, connectedness, and a true desire for mutual understanding

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?

Be ready to work. Be ready to collaborate. Be willing to explore things about yourself you need to improve.

MY HUSBAND FELT THAT HE WAS ALSO HEARD AND APPRECIATED THAT HE WASN’T MADE OUT TO BE THE BAD GUY. MY HUSBAND ALREADY RECOMMENDED HIM TO A WORK COLLEAGUE WITHIN DAYS OF OUR EXPERIENCE WITH DANIEL…

My husband and I were disconnected & distant from each other.

We were angry and distrustful of each other and anytime we interacted, it was confrontational and escalated. We no longer felt the need to put any effort into saving our marriage or even healing our relationship.

I had been after my husband for many years to go to couples therapy, but he refused until he realized we were on the brink of divorce.

I had told my husband that I wanted to separate, and on that same day when he went into work he asked our daughter to find a therapist for us and she came across your site.

I had no hesitation at all, but my husband believed it would be all about making him the bad guy. To help ease his anxiety about going to therapy, I suggested he choose the therapist.

After our couples’ weekend, we realized that we still love each other and wanted to work on saving our marriage. We now recognize the warning signs if a disagreement starts to escalate.

It has only happened a few times since our intensive weekend, but we caught ourselves and stopped. Then we try to calmly and respectfully address the issue we don’t agree on, trying to understand the others’ perspective at least.

Both my husband and I liked Dan’s relaxed but straight forward approach.

He truly listened and understood each of our concerns and pulled no punches in sharing his opinion and perspective.

My husband felt that he was also heard and appreciated that he wasn’t made to be the bad guy. My husband had already recommended him to a friend and business associate within just days after intensive couples’ weekend with Daniel.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Daniel?

Don't hesitate! Go into it with an open heart and an open mind and you’ll come away more aware of how to have a healthier, more loving relationship.

Daniel was great and we are grateful for the tools he’s provided us to do the ‘work’ in healing our relationship.

We realize it’s an ongoing work in progress, and we will have our ups and downs, but being able to have contact with Daniel for his advice when we stumble helps us to refocus and realize that our sacred union is worth the hard work.

I WAS AFRAID THAT IF MY HUSBAND GOT UPSET, OR HURT, I WOULD FEEL TERRIBLE..

We tried couples therapy before, briefly. It was terrible.

We had one issue of my sexuality turning into a sticking point (polyamory...) We loved Dan! Mostly, the fact that he participated. Not just a cheerleader or as he would say, a "powder puff."

I have hope. I want to stay. I feel calmer. We have a new understanding of each other. We are having different, better conversations.

The sheer amount of time you get to devote to the marriage is valuable. The scientific approach made sense as well.

Working with Daniel was a very positive experience.

I WAS, ADMITTEDLY, A BIT WORRIED THAT I WOULD BE ATTACKED AND ADMONISHED THROUGHOUT THE WEEKEND…

I was, admittedly, a bit worried that I would be attacked and admonished throughout the weekend.

There was so much tension due to difficulty communicating - something we let fester for years. This was the primary issue we needed to improve.

My partner’s research and Daniel Dashnaw's book, and blog posts were the primary reasons we chose him.

I was, admittedly, a bit worried that I would be attacked and admonished throughout the weekend.

Daniel immediately established a welcoming, comfortable environment for both of us with kindness, sympathy, directness, and thoroughness.

We are doing much better - communicating more clearly and responding to each other more readily. We have; better communication, comfortable affection, tools to continue improvement in our relationship.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Daniel Dashnaw?

The intensive weekend is well worth the investment.

MY KIDS HAVE THEIR DAD BACK HOME…

Our relationship was completely toxic and essentially over.

My wife researched Daniel and asked me to do it with her. My only hesitation was that we had just separated, and I wasn't sure if I wanted to get back together.

It's still early days, but I feel like it turned out to be the best solution for our marriage (much better than separation, and much better than the way things were before.)

What I liked most was that Daniel didn't mess around. He just got right to it and got us on track.

This is the most excitement I've felt about my marriage and life since our wedding. My kids have their dad back home. I feel hope for the first time in a long time. I no longer feel like I have to choose between work and marriage.

What would you say to couples who are considering working with Daniel Dashnaw?

This was no small amount of money for us to spend, but if you're at your wit's end, it's worth every penny.

DANIEL JUST “GOT IT” AND ADDRESSED IT VERY QUICKLY AND EFFECTIVE… HE’S AMAZING!

There was tremendous emotional absence in the relationship and unproductive communication styles. The brief hour-long sessions with other couples therapists were a waste of time for someone like us. We needed intensive training and work.

I was hesitant that, like other couples therapists we’d been to, Daniel would not get the gist of our relationship and also not get the smaller, more specific issues in our relationship.

But Daniel immediately got the gist and he understood every single issue, and he addressed it with specific suggestions and also was direct about how to handle it. There was no beating around the bush.

He just “got it” and addressed it very quickly and effectively. He’s amazing!! I’ve never seen a therapist that gets it so fast, doesn’t waste time, and addresses things directly but empathetically. I highly recommend him.

​After the intensive, my husband started working on specific issues that he had minimized in the past, and I started feeling like someone was getting it and addressing it.

Also, I started to notice my own reactions better. I understood my own situation better, my husband could not be in denial anymore, he started understanding what changes he needed to make, which never happened with other couples therapists as they could not bring this level of specific suggestions and expertise and training.

Daniel gave real tools.

Also, I felt really heard and confident that someone had our back, and was not doing it just as a “therapist”. I loved his expertise, training, and statistics which made everything he said more comprehensive as it was backed by evidence and research and this really spoke to me.

This is truly an effective method which is meant to get to issues quickly. What would need months took 2.5 days.

WAS THERE TOO MUCH WATER UNDER THE BRIDGE TO SAVE OUR MARRIAGE?

Describe your relationship before you called Daniel Dashnaw.

Disastrous. Looking to recover from an affair and improve communication.

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with him?

Whether or not my wife would attend with me. Also, was there ‘too much water under the bridge’ to save our marriage?

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship from your work with Daniel?

We acquired the skill set to communicate better.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessfully was it?

Yes. Mostly unsuccessful due to a more generic approach.

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with your therapist?

I really respect Daniel’s knowledge, perspective and no-nonsense approach.

Would you recommend your couples therapist, Daniel Dashnaw?

Absolutely, yes.

What three benefits resulted from working with Daniel Dashnaw?

• Knowledge and understanding of my own issues.

• Knowledge and understanding of my wife’s issues and how they relate to our conflict.

• Developing a better way of communication.

HUSBAND: I FEEL THAT THIS WAS A ONE-SIDED THERAPY...

WIFE: I LOVED HIS DIRECTNESS AND EXPERTISE, KNOWLEDGE.

Wife: On the brink of divorce. Emotional control and domination on my husband’s part.

Husband: Had more communication issues with my spouse.

Wife: I was hesitant about spending the money, not knowing if it would make a difference.

Husband: I had no hesitation.

Changes?

Wife: It's only been 10 days it's hard to know if the change is permanent but we are using the tools in how to better communicate and express my feelings without making my partner feel threatened.

Husband: Listen, be patient hear your spouse.

Had you tried couples therapy before?

Wife: Traditional marriage counseling once a week for 6 months. Things just seemed to get worse.

Husband: No we had not heard of couples therapy (inc?).

Who was your therapist? What did you like most/least?

Wife: Daniel. I loved his directness and expertise knowledge. I felt heard, known, seen and understood.

Husband: Upfront and forward. I feel that this was a one-sided therapy and that it looked at the individual that was hurt the most. No effort to determine if the other person had any validity. I can see why this was done but the other person also needs some listening to.

Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc?

Wife: Absolutely!

Husband: Yes

What benefits resulted?

Wife: Better communication skills. Anger under control. A better understanding of my emotional state.

Husband: I feel we are closer and my spouse has put some walls down, is willing to let go some of the past behind us, although she still wants to know why. We never discussed the root causes and she wants closure.

More?

Wife: It was a very productive and enjoyable experience. I would have easily welcomed another 1/2 or full day.

I WAS RELUCTANT TO OPEN UP TO A TOTAL STRANGER....

My main hesitation was just opening up and telling someone about the personal issues we were dealing with and some of the root causes for our problems. We had considered couples therapy before, but this was the first time we ever met someone to discuss our issues.

I was reluctant to open up to a total stranger.

Daniel was very understanding of our problems. He spoke to us in a way we could easily relate to. He didn't judge our mistakes but gave us tools as to how to correct and avoid them in the future. Dan helped us remember how great our marriage and relationship was at one point and taught us how we can get back to that place or even a better place in the future.

We've been more connected, our communication has been much better than before, and we are better at addressing one another if we disagree.

Our physical connection and closeness has also improved tremendously. Our sex life is much more active.

Dan was amazing. My wife and I have both said how much he helped us, and that we may not have been able to save our marriage without his help.

For that, it's been worth the time and money spent...

His knowledge and insight will follow me for the rest of my life.

I WOULD HIGHLY RECOMMEND DAN DASHNAW. ESPECIALLY IF YOUR COMPANION IS STUBBORN

I loved Dan’s honesty and ability to teach. My husband was able to recognize my hurt and respond in a much more emphatic way. If you are looking for straightforward honesty, I would highly recommend Dan Dashnaw especially if your companion is stubborn.

WE HAD AN AFFAIR

After our intensive with Daniel, we came home with great hope that we could have a stronger relationship…but different from the first. We can communicate easier, and we have tools to have a calmer disagreement and express OUR feelings.

We liked Daniel’s knowledge and approach He has helped us immensely.

I FELT I WOULD BE SINGLED OUT AS THE BAD GUY; ALL FINGERS WOULD POINT TOWARD ME

Our relationship was strained. We wanted to improve communications and work toward acceptance or forgiveness of infidelity. I hesitated to start with couples therapy because I felt I would be singled out as the bad guy; all fingers would point toward me.

We sought couples therapy but never spoke to a therapist who specialized in couples therapy as Daniel does. His insight and experience were exceptional.

Daniel's couples therapy experience was second to none.

He was blunt and straight to the point yet understanding and did not choose sides of who is right or wrong. He used the science of the human body to explain why we have the feelings we have during different situations and how they affect our brains and emotions.

We were provided with tools to address anger, doubt, and trust. With these tools, we could rebuild our home.

I would definitely recommend couples therapy with Daniel Dashnaw, even under the most challenging situations.

We are all human and we all make mistakes. Understanding the science of emotion and how it relates directly to the human body places emphasis on the root cause of why we do things that hurt our partners, intentional or not.

Three benefits from attending the Private Intensive Couples Retreat session were; one, the private setting with no outside distractions. All focus was on us, good or bad. Two, there was no escaping the emotion.

The eight-hour days brought out a lot of emotion, which really felt invigorating for both of us. Three, a path forward on working toward a result based on the tools provided and the lessons learned from the discussions.

Daniel was wonderful.

The setting was very private and my partner and I had a memorable time. I' like to thank Daniel again for his insight and passion for helping couples work together to reach their goal.

I WAS READY TO END THE RELATIONSHIP, I HAD EVEN TOLD HIM TO LEAVE

The core issue for me was no trust in the relationship, I didn't even realize how the constant jabs at me had just worn me out.

We had tried other couples therapy for a short time. We stopped going when the therapist was unable to offer any type of assistance or even ideas of things to try or think about in any area. It was very disappointing.

Daniel Dashnaw was our therapist. I loved that he was able to word things in a way we could each understand, specifically out of our fumbling attempts to say what we were thinking. I also loved that he was willing to call it as he saw it.

Daniel was direct and, therefore, understandable, took a lot of stress off, worrying that we wouldn't have a clue what he was talking about.

We really needed help with understanding and stopping some long-term negative behaviors that were driving us apart. He had to both point out, and step in to stop the "negative jabs."

I appreciated his ability to do this and, in addition, the important part of teaching us why it’s not helpful and how to correct the problem.

We now we have a much deeper understanding of how a person’s past really does affect their present way of doing things. It allows a lot more empathy.

We are now struggling to learn new ways of communicating and giving needed positive feedback that are much better for both of us. I am willing to keep trying and not give up entirely.

As Daniel said often, neither of us ever had a chance to learn how a normal relationship works.

We both need we-ness to feel better and to overcome our past. Burying the past doesn't work it keeps seeping into relationships and making them a mess.

What are three benefits from working with Daniel Dashnaw?

(1) We are still together, it was so bad I almost ended the relationship before making it there. I told him to call and cancel it a week before the appointment.

(2) I have hope. Because we have specific loving and kind patterns to replace our horrible patterns we could turn into one of those wonderful couples you see who are really happy with each other. And even when we disagree we are kind and respectful to each other.

(3) We each came away with several big understandings on what we do, or fail to do, and the effect they have on each other. We have been each trying hard to implement what Dan taught us, which is instantly beneficial. I understand how important hearing compliments are to my honey that I am making a point to give much more freely, and when he does those awful negative jabs at me, not even realizing it, I have a tool to ask him to re-word and state how bad they make me feel. He has been putting a huge effort to word things in much nicer ways.

I would recommend both Daniel Dashnaw to anyone having issues. I learned more in two days than I had ever learned in all the classes and reading I had ever had about how to actually have a lasting, loving relationship, and what a relationship even is, or even how to communicate.

For someone to explain "why" and give you the tools to communicate effectively with understanding of your own personal weaknesses and strengths is priceless. It may be a generic pattern that is helpful to anyone, but without guidance and practice under supervision it just doesn't make sense. Plus without the 3rd party to referee, couples like us would just miss the whole point and continue to argue we are right without even realizing we never even heard the problem.

MY PARTNER AND I WERE COMPLETELY STUCK ON THE CORE ISSUE OF SEX (OR ABSENCE OF) IN OUR RELATIONSHIP

How would you describe your relationship before you called Daniel Dashnaw?

My partner and I were completely stuck on the core issue of sex (or absence of) in our relationship. We had tried repeatedly through the past several years to heal this. We were unable to do that through traditional marriage counseling or through numerous discussions between the two of us.

What hesitation did you have about starting couples therapy with him?

The only hesitation was financial. We were otherwise very eager to try anything for help.

What changes resulted in your marriage/relationship from your work with Daniel?

Dan changed the entire context of the conversation. Dan brought my husband and I to an entirely new space and allowed us to communicate around this issue in a brand new way. It was truly transformational.

Had you considered or tried couples therapy before? If so, how successful or unsuccessful was it?

Yes. Very unsuccessful.

What specific qualities did you like most and least about working with this therapist?

I loved Dan's bluntness. He was direct and concise.

Dan understood me and my issues in a way no therapist ever has before. I have had years of individual therapy - no one had come close to figuring me out the way Dan did.

I loved his knowledge. He is so well-read and provided abundant scientific research to back up his comments.

Would you recommend Daniel Dashnaw If so, why?

Yes. Absolutely. I would say you could condense 10 years of therapy into a weekend. I would especially recommend Dan for people with Developmental Trauma.

I would especially recommend Dan for people with Developmental Trauma.

What three benefits resulted from working with Daniel Dashnaw?

I understood that the husband in my head is not the same person as the husband to whom I am married. I learned how my childhood trauma is impacting my ability to connect with my husband. I learned that my husband loves me.

THE BEST AND MOST IMPORTANT ASPECT OF THE RETREAT WAS THAT WE WERE ABLE TO ADDRESS OUR ISSUES WITHOUT DISTRACTIONS AND UNDER THE CAREFUL GUIDANCE OF OUR COUNSELOR.

Daniel was very encouraging when we were working out issues and very blunt about calling it as he saw it.

We were encouraged to speak freely about very hard issues with guidance and compassion, we were able to recognize each other’s feelings and begin to rebuild open communication and we were allowed to address what first brought us together, where the relationship broke down and what strategies we can use to build a stronger marriage from now on.

The best and most important aspect of the retreat was that we were able to address our issues without distractions and under the careful guidance of our counselor.

We were able to concentrate on ourselves and each other openly, honestly and emotionally in an environment which felt safe and secure and were able to discuss very painful issues with respect and understanding with a focus on healing together instead of separately.

Would you recommend Daniel Dashnaw?

I would recommend working with Daniel if you truly want to dig in and work on the core issues of the relationship...

HE WAS THE PERFECT THERAPIST FOR US

Our relationship was disconnected and non-existent. Our kids were going away to camp for two weeks, and we didn't even know how to be alone together or talk about anything except the kids.

We struggled with infidelity and health issues that created a lot of tension in our marriage. We were hopeless. We were at a point where we couldn't even spend days alone - we had nothing to talk about and no relationship.

We had previously gone to therapy for about three years. We needed an intensive, and Daniel made it easy to work with him.

Daniel was so relatable and funny, like he completely understood both of us. He made us laugh together, really understand each other, and really see life from the other's point of view. I never felt an ounce of judgment. I was never uncomfortable.

For intensives, I think most men are likely a little resistant, which is why we chose a male therapist, and it was perfect for my husband to actually engage and not just feel like 'we are here talking about our feelings'.

I think it completely softened us towards one another because we were seeing the others' points of view.

Daniel was also very real with us about what we were and weren't going to get out of each other - and what we should and shouldn't think we need in the marriage.

I think so many couples out there think that all is hopeless, and they don't even want to try. We were there and giving this one last shot...very pleasantly surprised that we can do this.

Daniel helped us see that - we give him all of the credit. He was the perfect therapist for us.

What would you say to couples considering working with Daniel?

Spend the money. It's a heck of a lot cheaper than a divorce. It is so easy to fall into the trap of believing that you are the only one experiencing your issue, so you must get out in order to fix things.

When you get into therapy, you will learn that your issues are almost textbook to issues that happen in marriage - cause and effect - and there are trained people to help you through. Go for it! Turn it into a vacation.

Anything else you’d like to add?

Daniel Dashnaw should start doing more online consultations. Especially now that this is a perfectly acceptable way to meet.

And some people with busy lives or that don't want to go to the Berkshires could find his advice and counsel extremely beneficial.

We live in quite a distance and will continue with him virtually rather than someone in closer. He was just awesome, and he is the perfect therapist for a man that doesn't want to be dragged to counseling.

What would you say to couples considering working with Daniel Dashnaw?

Do it! Your marriage is worth the investment.

I HAD GIVEN UP… I DIDN’T KNOW IF WE WERE FIXABLE, AND DIDN’T WANT TO PUT ANY MORE EFFORT INTO SOMETHING THAT WASN’T GOOD.

I was ready for divorce, even though I never wanted that. I just couldn’t take what our marriage had become.

I didn’t know if we were fixable, and didn’t want to put any more effort into something that wasn’t good. I had given up. But I actually feel hope now! I feel like I was listened to for the very first time...ever!

I liked everything about Daniel!

He really got us and was very no-nonsense with his advice.

I believe Daniel has saved our marriage. At least he’s given us the tools to save our marriage. Now the work is up to us.)

I understand my husband better. I understand myself better. I am learning to become more assertive for myself.

I am so grateful for this type of therapy. I believe the science-based aspect is what makes it so good. This WILL help us if we are BOTH willing to do the work. Thank you!

WE WERE VALIDATED IN THAT WE WERE DOING SO MANY THINGS RIGHT

We attended the retreat for an affair recovery intensive. Our relationship was actually stronger than before the affair.

Daniel was absolutely the best fit for us as a couples therapist. He was real, down to earth and did not sugar coat anything, which is exactly the way we are.

We immediately felt comfortable in that we could be ourselves and it wasn't going to be a wasted weekend. I would recommend Daniel to people who are realists and who are interested in not beating around the bush.

We were validated in that we were doing so many things right. We reinforced our daily rituals and continue to have high positive regard for each other.

What three benefits resulted from working with Daniel Dashnaw?

Validation that we are committed to make it work.

Improved discussions around difficult topics leading to resolutions.

Gained knowledge of my partner's "style" of communication.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Daniel Dashnaw?

Have a clear goal in mind. Be prepared to do the work and don't expect Daniel to fix your problems for you, It’s rather that Daniel is there to give you the tools and instruction so you can do the work yourselves.

OUR UNDERLYING ISSUES OF HER DISTRUST AND ANGER AS A RESULT OF MY ACTIONS CONTINUE...

Our relationship was in a state of crisis. It is still in a state of crisis.

Although we have many moments of joy, the underlying issues of her distrust and anger as a result of my actions have continued.

That said, the intensive with Dan was very productive. He provided very useful research on relationships, and as we requested, tied that to our faith’s religious writings naturally.

The hesitation was in whether my wife remained committed enough to the relationship to justify the time.

Results? We have gained some skills for communicating during conflict. we have made use of Dan's evening prayer thanking God for each other.

We have taken the time for longer prayer with each other (at times, although not consistently...). We have defused conflict at times using Dan's suggested methods.

Dan is a very thoughtful guy. He met us where we were. He is direct.

He weaved in scientific studies and our religious writings with great skill. We very much enjoyed working with him and did not have any notable negative feedback.

Like I said above, I think it has given us some good skills for dealing with conflict. I also think that the information about the consequences of contempt in the relationship, and harsh words generally, was eye opening.

We continue to struggle with that, as my wife remains very hurt and angry. It is a struggle. But knowing the science behind the results of harsh words has better enabled me to deal with it and keep it moving forward.

Would you recommend Daniel Dashnaw, If so, why? If not, why not?

Yes. I already have recommended him. He uses a science-based approach that really makes it worthwhile.

GIVEN THE FAILURES OF PAST THERAPY, I WAS CONCERNED ABOUT COST—THINKING OUR RELATIONSHIP WAS JUST HOPELESS…

Before, our relationship could be described as toxic, angry, petty and stressful. Weekly therapy that we had in the past was a failure; it was not successful at all.

We wanted to improve communications and unresolved issues and to start to like each other again.

Daniel Dashnaw was one of our therapists; I liked his knowledge and experience on the process. He provided examples to connect the science and delivered it simply, and directly.

Now I have a better connection to my wife by understanding her adult child.

We have fewer escalations in fights, and this clarified our decision that we want to stay together. We’ve learned when and how to have disagreements, when and how to stop escalations and how to deposit in our partner’s emotional bank.

I would gladly recommend Daniel Dashnaw. I think the science behind relationships is something necessary for all marriages.

DANIEL IDENTIFIED THE CORE ISSUES WE WERE HAVING AND WHAT WE NEEDED TO DO IMMEDIATELY TO CHANGE OUR INTERACTIONS.

We had a high conflict with minimal resolution.

If there was a resolution, we didn't leave tough conversations feeling any closer. We both had to fight to be heard and understood. The biggest thing we wanted to improve was overall communication and positive interactions.

We’ve tried couples therapy twice before.

We worked on the issue that brought us into therapy at that time.

The therapists we worked with had very different approaches. Although it helped us for a short time, several months of therapy didn't hit the real heart of what was going on between us.

The stakes are higher than ever for us with three young kids at home.

Our conflict has impacted them, and we wanted to do something quickly and something that worked. CTI's weekend model using the Gottman Method felt like the best choice we could make to see lasting changes quickly. We felt great about the therapists and the therapeutic approach.

With the cost associated and the hoops to get childcare, it's high risk. But we truly believed that it would be worth every penny if it worked for us.

Daniel Dashnaw is direct, honest, empathetic, and warm.

He is very intelligent and so knowledgeable about his field and possible interventions. He educated us and talked more than any therapist I have worked with before, but I truly think that's what we needed.

We've spent hours talking to other therapists and hardly gotten anywhere in improving our relationship and conflict.

Daniel is really gifted at getting to the heart of what is going wrong in a relationship. Between analyzing our Big Big Book answers and watching less than 10 minutes of our low-level conflict, Daniel identified our core issues and what we needed to do immediately to change our interactions.

He really drilled in the things we needed to remember and what we needed to work on moving forward. He also made us feel understood while challenging us in the areas we needed to grow.

Lastly, he gave us so much hope about the kind of relationship we can have. I am SO grateful for him, his counseling style, and how many resources he pointed us to for the future.

I love that he writes so much and has the heart to equip couples not just on his couch. He has a wealth of knowledge that is truly life-changing!

Our conflict has been drastically reduced and we have a clear plan for how we should talk about any issues that might arise. Daniel helped us to establish a baseline for what we want in our relationship, ground rules and strategies to get there, and how to repair when we slip along the way. I have hope for long-lasting change in our relationship that I haven't had in years. We both feel understood in a way that we haven't before and feel equipped to continue to better our relationships.

What would you say to couples that are considering working with Daniel Dashnaw?

I highly recommend it. Improving your marriage requires time, energy and hard work. Doing a couples intensive with Daniel equips you with the tools you need to do the hard work.

We saw and felt significant changes in our relationship immediately and have a plan for moving forward. The prep work with Daniel took several hours (more than we anticipated!), but it was so worth it.

It allowed us to start therapy without having to go through hours of family history and backstory.

When we got to our weekend, we had very clear goals in mind and our therapist had so much history on each of us and what we wanted that we wasted no time in therapy. It was focused on exactly what we needed. It is worth EVERY PENNY.

One weekend was far more beneficial for us than any of the long term counseling we have done before. We truly believe in the process and feel that it definitely worked for us.

We are SO grateful for Daniel and the experience we had with him.

Everyone we interacted with was very professional and we got quick answers to any questions that arose along the way. The recommendations for lodging and dining were also very helpful.

TRULY A GIFT

Wow… Daniel was beyond amazing.

He is brilliant, brilliant.

He is truly a gift to anyone that can be guided by him.