Welcome to my Blog

Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.

Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.

Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.

Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.

Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel

P.S.

Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.

 

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Caring for Aging Parents While Working Full Time — Why America’s Sandwich Generation Is Burning Out

Her father texts during her Zoom meeting:
“Can you bring soup?”

She hits the thumbs-up emoji, mutes herself, and keeps nodding through a conversation about “quarterly outcomes.”


By the time the call ends, she’s got three browser tabs open—one for DoorDash, one for her daughter’s FAFSA, and one titled “How to talk to aging parents about independence.”

That’s what burnout looks like for America’s Sandwich Generation: love divided by logistics.

It’s the unpaid, unending role of caring for aging parents while still raising, funding, or worrying about your own kids. It’s devotion that’s begun to taste like debt.

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The Bank of Mom and Dad: When Financial Help Becomes Emotional Debt

Your phone buzzes:
“Rent’s due—thanks, Mom ❤️.”

You stare at the heart emoji like it’s a receipt.

You tell yourself this is the last time.

Then you transfer the money and spend the next hour pretending you feel generous instead of cornered.

That’s how emotional debt begins: not with anger, but with relief.

Welcome to the quiet epidemic of financial enmeshment, where love and money blur into one long family subscription you forgot to cancel.

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The Teen Narcissism Paradox: When Ego Becomes a Healthy Survival Strategy

Teenagers are born narcissists. They think the world is a waiting room for their arrival—and, to be fair, sometimes it is.

A new study in Personality and Individual Differences suggests that certain forms of adolescent narcissism might actually help kids function, at least when life isn’t falling apart.

Once stress ramps up, that same “specialness” starts to look less like confidence and more like an audition for a reality show no one asked to host.

The research, led by Qiming Yu and Silin Huang at Beijing Normal University, found that how narcissism plays out depends less on character and more on chemistry—specifically the body’s allostatic load, a measure of how much chronic stress has worn down the system.

Low stress? Grandiose narcissists can be surprisingly generous.

High stress? They might start throwing elbows.

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LGBTQ+ Couples Therapy for Infertility: What the Research Really Says

Infertility is rarely kind, but for LGBTQ+ couples, it’s a double bind.

You face not only the grief of cycles that don’t work but also the absurdity of some clinics that don’t recognize your family.

Queer infertility therapy isn’t a luxury—it’s how couples keep from drowning in both the science and the silence.

Infertility never arrives as a polite guest. It doesn’t knock, it doesn’t call ahead.

It barges in, drops its bags in the middle of your living room, and declares it’s staying for an indefinite period of time.

For most couples, infertility brings grief, financial strain, and awkward silences at dinner parties.

For LGBTQ+ couples, infertility drags along a second, less visible shadow: decades of systemic exclusion, medical erasure, and cultural suspicion of queer families.

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America’s Demographic Cliff: Narcissism in Yoga Pants, Live-Streaming Our Own Extinction

The University of New Hampshire recently announced that the United States has 5.7 million more childless women than expected and 11.8 million fewer births since 2007 (Johnson, 2025).

Demographers call it the demographic cliff.

Personally, I think “cliff” is generous. A cliff suggests someone slipped. This looks more like a nation deliberately walking into traffic while posting a TikTok about “boundaries.”

Here’s a sobering factoid: In 2024, half of American women in their twenties and thirties had not given birth (Johnson, 2025).

In other words: for the first time in history, motherhood is less common than brunch. Yikes!

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Sisters with Sharp Elbows: Global Study Reveals Women Are Often More Aggressive Than Brothers

New sibling rivalry research overturns the old belief that men are naturally more aggressive, showing women often outpace brothers in family conflicts.

Aggression has always been handed out along gendered lines.

Men were assigned the part of the violent instigator—fighters, warriors, brawlers.

Women were cast as nurturers, peacekeepers, and emotional glue. Psychology, too, happily co-signed this story, reporting again and again that men were more aggressive than women, bolstered by reams of statistics from bar fights, playgrounds, and prisons (Archer, 2004; Bettencourt & Miller, 1996).

But stories are not science.

A new global study published in PNAS Nexus brings the myth to its knees. Surveying more than 4,000 people in 24 countries, the researchers found that women were just as aggressive as men toward their siblings—and often more so (Kenrick et al., 2025).

Aggression, it seems, is not simply male turf. Inside families, sisters often sharpen their elbows more than brothers.

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Yes Day Parenting: Why Saying “Sure” Can Build Trust With Your Kids

Parenting has always lived somewhere between order and chaos. For decades, the standard approach leaned heavily on “because I said so.”

Lately, though, parents are experimenting with something closer to improv: Yes Day parenting.

The premise is simple. For one day, parents agree to stop saying “no.”

Kids make the decisions (within reason), and adults surrender control.

The idea is framed as a positive parenting strategy—one that builds trust, encourages child autonomy, and gives families a break from the daily grind. Of course, it can also go off the rails in spectacular fashion.

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Couples Therapy for Co-Parenting After Divorce: Fighting Less, Parenting Better

Divorce kills the marriage. It does not kill the parenting.

You may not share a bed anymore, but you’ll still share a Google calendar, a dental bill, and a child who expects both of you to show up for their science fair.

That’s where co-parenting counseling comes in.

Let’s be blunt: this is not therapy to rekindle romance. It’s therapy to stop your child from being collateral damage in your ongoing feud.

The research is consistent: children don’t suffer because parents divorce—they suffer because parents keep fighting (Gottman, 1994; Sandler et al., 2020).

Which means the real question isn’t, “Do we still need therapy together?” It’s “What kind of plan—or therapy—keeps our conflict from spilling over onto the kids?”

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Parents, Memories, and the Strange Lottery of Attachment

You think you’re remembering a golden moment: your toddler, grinning with applesauce on their cheeks, running toward you like a drunken Olympian.

But you’re not just remembering. You’re filtering.

And the filter was bolted into place decades ago, when you were small and depending on parents who either showed up or didn’t.

A study in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships (Perzolli, Arcos, Kerr, Smiley, & Borelli, 2024) confirms what most therapists already suspect:

Your ability to savor joy depends on whether your caregivers were emotional first responders or checked-out landlords.

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Tylenol and Pregnancy: Harvard Study discusses Acetaminophen, Autism and ADHD Risks

For decades, acetaminophen—paracetamol to much of the world, Tylenol if you’re in a U.S. pharmacy aisle—has been the quiet, trusted companion of pregnant women.

A fever? Take two. A pounding headache? Same advice. Back pain in month seven? Doctors have nodded yes for years.

It’s not hard to see why. Nearly half of pregnant women in the UK and about two-thirds in the U.S. take it at some point. For decades, it was waved through as the “safest option.”

But now, researchers from Harvard and Mount Sinai are urging caution.

After reviewing more than 100,000 cases, their conclusion is sobering: prenatal acetaminophen use may be linked to higher risks of autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).

Not proof. Not a verdict. But the strongest evidence so far that this everyday drug isn’t as risk-free as we once believed.

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Workplace Chemicals and Autism: How Parents’ Jobs May Influence Autism Severity

We’ve long known that autism is shaped by both genetics and environment.

The debate usually circles around diagnosis — what increases the risk that a child will be on the spectrum.

But a new study asks a harder question: could a parent’s job affect how severe a child’s autism symptoms are?

Published in the International Journal of Hygiene and Environmental Health, the research suggests that parents’ workplace exposures to chemicals like plastics, phenols, and pharmaceuticals may influence not just whether a child has autism, but how intensely the condition shows up in language, cognition, behavior, and daily living skills.

For families already navigating autism, that’s a game-changer.

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Fathers by Choice, Mothers by Absence

There’s something undeniably moving about men who decide, after years of waiting, to become fathers on their own.

The Atlantic recently profiled this growing group of “single dads by choice” — men who wanted families badly enough to endure the expense, the clinics, the contracts, and the raised eyebrows.

They could have given up; instead, they built homes where children now live and grow. It’s hard not to admire that.

But admiration doesn’t erase the questions.

Children don’t arrive by magic. They come from women — egg donors, surrogates — whose names often vanish into sterile phrases like “gestational carrier.” Without them, no “choice” exists.

And without mothers, these children are being asked to adapt to a story where absence is part of the narrative.

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