I first became aware of Living Apart Together relationships when a was one of the owners and blog editor over at Couples Therapy Inc.

Frankly, I’m impressed with what they’ve done to the place since I moved on to do more couple and family work.

I wrote this article about 5 years ago for the CTI blog, and I continue to follow this trend more recently in my relatives new private practice.

Not long ago, the idea of a married couple choosing to live in separate homes might’ve triggered a wellness check—or at least a concerned conversation with your priest, rabbi, or HOA president.

But today, Living Apart Together (LAT) relationships are quietly reshaping the definition of modern love.

These aren’t failed marriages in disguise.

They’re a conscious choice—an evolving model for committed partnerships that value emotional intimacy and personal autonomy. If that sounds like a contradiction, welcome to the 21st century.

Two Depressed People Walk into Couples Therapy…

If one partner in a relationship is struggling with Major Depressive Disorder (MDD), it’s like trying to keep the household running while one person is stuck in quicksand.

When both partners have depression? It’s like they’re both in the quicksand—holding hands and wondering whether to sink together or just stop struggling altogether.

Couples therapy in this scenario has little to do about “working on communication” or “rekindling the spark.” It’s about interrupting a mutual downward spiral before it becomes an existential free fall.

The research is clear: when both partners have depression, the relationship itself becomes a powerful amplifier of symptoms.

Marital dissatisfaction and depression feed into each other, creating a depressive contagion that deepens despair and makes recovery harder (Whisman & Baucom, 2012).

But here's the good news: just as two depressed partners can sink together, they can also rise together.

Let’s get one thing straight—not everyone is straight.

And yet, society still struggles with this simple fact.

Same-sex couples frequently face minority stress—the chronic stress caused by stigma, discrimination, and systemic inequality (Meyer, 2003).

Despite these challenges, LGBTQ+ couples continue to flourish, displaying extraordinary resilience in love and relationships. Research has shown that the right social support, legal protections, and emotional intelligence can buffer the negative effects of minority stress (Rostosky & Riggle, 2017).

This article dives deep into what science says about LGBTQ+ resilience—from relationship strength to legal protections, coping strategies, and policy implications.

If you want to understand how same-sex couples overcome adversity and thrive, keep reading.

Supporting a partner through cancer can feel like steering a ship through stormy, uncharted seas—challenging, unpredictable, yet navigable with the right tools.

Together, couples can not only survive this difficult journey but emerge stronger and more deeply connected than ever.

Caring for a partner with cancer often involves emotional stress, physical exhaustion, and immense responsibility.

Research emphasizes that caregiving spouses frequently experience elevated stress levels, heightened anxiety, and increased risks of depression (Kim, Shaffer, & Carver, 2019).

Acknowledging these pressures openly is the first critical step toward managing them effectively.

"In sickness and in health, until menopause do us part?"

Menopause is often humorously depicted as a time of hot flashes, mood swings, and endless ice packs.

But beneath the jokes, there's a deeper, less discussed reality: menopause can be a significant factor contributing to divorce.

Understanding this connection is crucial, especially for couples entering midlife.

Imagine this: You tell your partner, “We agreed you’d pick up the groceries,” and they respond with a blank stare of absolute innocence.

“I don’t remember that.”

And suddenly, your entire reality is on trial.

Did you actually have that conversation? Did you imagine it? Are you going insane? Or is this person slowly, methodically dismantling your sense of reality, brick by gaslit brick?

It’s a terrifying moment—one that has launched countless Reddit threads, therapy sessions, and awkward text conversations with friends that begin, “Hey, super weird question, but…”

So how do you know if you’re being gaslit or just dealing with someone who has the memory of a goldfish?

That’s what we’re here to figure out.

If there’s one dating trend that absolutely needed to happen, it’s this: setting boundaries as an act of self-love.

And not just the flimsy, “I don’t text after 10 PM” kind of boundaries, but real, enforced, and deeply respected emotional limits that keep your relationships (and mental health) intact.

For years, boundaries have been treated like a rude inconvenience—something to be negotiated away in the name of romance.

But as more people realize that love without limits is just codependency in a trench coat, the culture is shifting. Setting boundaries isn’t just responsible; it’s the sexiest thing you can do for yourself.

Congratulations! You’ve entered a long-term relationship, which means you’ve voluntarily signed up for an ongoing collaborative project with another human being, one that involves constant adjustments, occasional malfunctions, and the ever-present threat of obsolescence.

Many people assume that once they find “the one,” love should work automatically, like a self-cleaning oven or a Roomba.

This is somewhat incorrect. Love is more like an operating system, prone to crashes if left unpatched.

So today, let’s talk about why relationships are dynamic systems, not static agreements, and why treating them as such is the key to keeping them alive.

In a world where relationships come with an instruction manual that no one actually reads, Living Apart Together (LAT) is the quiet revolution whispering, "What if love doesn’t require a shared utility bill?"

You love your partner, but you also love your personal space. You’re committed, but you don’t think commitment means arguing about who left crumbs in the bed.

And here’s the beautiful part: you’re not weird. You’re just ahead of your time.

Welcome to LAT, where love isn’t measured in square footage.

Mental health misdiagnosis can lead to ineffective treatment and prolonged suffering, and few conditions are confused as often as Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Bipolar Disorder (BD).

Both conditions involve emotional instability, impulsivity, and challenges in relationships, but they have fundamentally different causes, progressions, and treatments.

This confusion has real consequences—studies show that up to 40% of folks diagnosed with Bipolar II actually have BPD (Zimmerman et al., 2010).

This article will clearly differentiate these two disorders using scientific research, clinical findings, and expert recommendations, ensuring you walk away with a solid understanding of their differences, similarities, and best treatment strategies.

Depression affects many folks in the Berkshires and Hilltowns of Western Massachusetts. This is a hard place to live in during the winter.

For some, finding affordable and accessible therapy options can be challenging. Fortunately, the region offers a variety of mental health services designed to support those in need.

Struggling with depression can feel like carrying an invisible weight, one that makes everyday life seem exhausting and overwhelming.

But if you’re in Worcester, Massachusetts, you don’t have to carry that burden alone.

Affordable, compassionate care is available, and help is closer than you think. From sliding-scale therapy to specialized depression clinics, Worcester offers a range of options that ensure financial barriers don’t stand in the way of mental wellness.