Let’s peruse the grand buffet of passive-aggressive relationship tactics; there’s ghosting (poof, they’re gone), breadcrumbing (a Hansel and Gretel nightmare), and stonewalling (the emotional equivalent of a medieval fortress).

But somewhere between ghosting and stonewalling lies a lesser-known but equally maddening behavior: greywalling.

Defining Greywalling: The Cold Shoulder With a Pulse

What is Greywalling?

Greywalling is the deliberate act of responding with minimal engagement, offering just enough acknowledgment to avoid outright stonewalling, but withholding any real emotional connection.

It’s the emotional equivalent of someone turning off the Wi-Fi on your video call—you're still there, but the connection is useless.

Unlike stonewalling, which is a complete shutdown, greywalling keeps the interaction technically alive..

Is there a link between marital conflict and cardiovascular health?

For years, we've known that stress is bad for the heart.

But what if the most damaging stressor in your life isn't your job, financial concerns, or even your in-laws—but your marriage?

A study of 1,200 older married adults (ages 57-85) led by sociologist Hui Liu at Michigan State University found that people in unhappy marriages, particularly women, have an increased risk of heart disease compared to those in satisfying marriages (Liu et al., 2016).

These findings aren't just a warning sign for those in rocky relationships; they reveal a critical intersection between mental and physical health.

If we were to build a factory that churned out emotionally hardened, manipulative souls, the blueprints would likely resemble the adolescent social landscape.

Peer rejection, that timeless crucible of human cruelty, may be more than just a childhood nuisance—it may be the prototype for the development of Machiavellianism, psychopathy, and narcissism.

A recent study by Pu and Gan (2024) suggests that social ostracism in adolescence contributes to the development of the Dark Triad traits through the mediating factor of loneliness.

The implication? That schoolyard exclusions and digital ghosting rituals might be shaping the next generation of cunning strategists, ruthless impulsives, and self-appointed demigods.

So, you've taken a childhood trauma test, and it turns out your childhood wasn't all sunshine and finger painting.

What now?

Trauma isn't just some poetic notion of suffering—it lives in the nervous system, rewires the brain, and can turn a perfectly good Tuesday into a high-stakes psychological battle over whether to answer a text message.

But here’s the good news: brains are changeable, and healing is possible.

This guide walks through the latest research on how childhood trauma affects the brain and body, the most effective evidence-based therapies, and practical strategies for rewiring old patterns.

If trauma is the unwanted gift from the past that keeps on giving, consider this your guide to finally returning it.

Childhood trauma has profound effects on mental health, emotional well-being, and even physical health across a lifetime.

To understand the impact of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) and other trauma, psychologists and researchers have developed various childhood trauma tests.

These assessments help identify the presence and severity of childhood trauma, providing a starting point for healing and intervention.

But how accurate are these tests? What do they truly measure? And how should they be used in clinical and personal contexts?

This guide explores the history, types, reliability, and implications of childhood trauma tests, helping clients and professionals make informed decisions about their use.

Humans who barely understand themselves are tasked with raising future generations.

It soon becomes self-evident that a troubling reality emerges: some parents never grow up.

Instead of being wise, nurturing figures, they remain emotionally stunted, reacting to stress with all the grace of a teenager whose phone just died.

This is not a new phenomenon. Cultural Narcissism has always taken suseptible souls.

Ancient mythology is riddled with narcissistic, vengeful parents (hello, Cronus).

Shakespeare built entire tragedies around emotionally immature authority figures.

Today, we just have TikTok compilations—30-second masterclasses in dysfunctional parenting.

But unlike in Greek mythology, where you could just overthrow the gods, modern psychology insists we use science-based coping strategies instead.

So, let’s consider the emotionally immature parents—what causes their behavior, how they impact their children, and what, if anything, can be done about it.

Somewhere in the dim corridors of evolutionary psychology, a grand bargain was struck: men would hunt, women would gather, and marriage would make sure both parties stayed well-fed.

Fast-forward to modern Poland, and the evidence suggests the deal might have gotten out of hand. According to a recent study, married men are over three times as likely to be obese as their unmarried counterparts (Cicha-Mikolajczyk et al., 2024).

This, of course, begs the question: Does matrimony come with an invisible side of weight gain, or are we merely witnessing the gravitational pull of domesticity?

Recent longitudinal research suggests that women with higher levels of self-acceptance are less likely to develop problematic pornography use.

Additionally, frequent pornography consumption among women is linked to difficulties in engaging in goal-directed behaviors. These findings, published in Computers in Human Behavior, shed light on the psychological mechanisms behind pornography use among women—a topic historically studied with a strong focus on men.

If you’re in a committed relationship, congratulations: you’ve entered an unlicensed, high-stakes experiment in psychological self-discovery.

Your partner, through no fault of their own, will inadvertently trigger every unhealed wound, unmet need, and childhood trauma lurking in the depths of your unconscious.

This is not a bug; it’s a feature.

Carl Jung believed that deep within our psyche exists the shadow—the disowned parts of ourselves that we repress because they don’t fit our preferred self-image.

We’d like to think of ourselves as kind, rational, and generous, yet we’re also capable of cruelty, pettiness, and selfishness.

We push those less flattering qualities into the shadow, where they ferment and mutate into projections. In relationships, this means you’re not just reacting to your partner—you’re reacting to what they awaken in you.

It’s 1858, and Senator James Henry Hammond is boldly defending slavery before the U.S. Senate.

He's not embarrassed. Not even a little.

Instead, he proudly declares what historians now call the Mud Sill Theory.

To Hammond, society was a grand house built upon a foundation—a mudsill—of permanently enslaved people whose suffering enabled civilization for the privileged few.

“In all social systems, there must be a class to do the menial duties, to perform the drudgery of life,” Hammond said without blinking an eye. “Such a class you must have, or you would not have that other class which leads progress, civilization, and refinement” (Hammond, 1858).

What a flawless distillation of the Cultural Narcissism of his place and time.

Pretty chilling, isn’t it? But surely, we’ve moved past such backward thinking. Right?

Not so fast.

Imagine, for a moment, that you're a network engineer (bear with me, gentle reader).

Your emotional health is the precious data you're tasked with protecting, and the narcissist in your life—perhaps your ex-partner, parent, or even that overly charming friend—is the human equivalent of malware, constantly attempting to infiltrate your emotional defenses.

Firewalling a narcissist, then, becomes your ultimate strategy: it’s all about installing emotional antivirus software and setting digital barbed wire around your sanity.

Firewalling isn't merely distancing yourself—it's consciously establishing and maintaining boundaries so sturdy that even the craftiest emotional hackers find their tricks useless. And believe me, narcissists are emotional hackers extraordinaire.

In the grand tradition of humanity stuffing itself with things it probably shouldn’t, scientists have now confirmed that our brains—once believed to be the domain of existential dread, forgotten passwords, and questionable life choices—are also stockpiling microplastics.

Yes, tiny synthetic hitchhikers have made their way past every evolutionary firewall designed to keep nonsense out of our heads, and they’re settling in for the long haul.

A study published in Nature Medicine has taken a good, hard look at human brain tissue and found microplastics—those microscopic remnants of modern convenience—nestled deep in the frontal cortex.

While previous research has shown these omnipresent polymers invading our livers, kidneys, and even placentas (because of course they have), this latest discovery raises the uncomfortable question: What exactly are these plastic squatters doing in the human brain, and should we be worried? (Answer: Probably.)