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Understanding the Phenomenon of Female Teachers Engaging in Sexual Misconduct with Students
The idea of a female teacher exploiting her position of trust to abuse a student is unsettling on many levels.
Society typically casts women as caregivers, moral guides, and protectors, particularly in roles such as teaching.
When this trust is violated, it feels profoundly jarring—not just because of the harm caused but because it challenges deeply ingrained beliefs about gender roles and authority figures.
Let’s delve into the psychological, societal, and systemic factors that contribute to such behavior, as well as emerging theories on its prevalence.
The Great Domestic Labor Hustle: 6 Ways Some Men Gaslight Their Partners About Chores
Let’s talk about domestic labor inequality and the invisible load.
It’s the never-ending sitcom rerun nobody asked for, starring an overworked woman, a couch-loving man, and a sink full of dirty dishes that doubles as a marital Rorschach test.
Every chore becomes a battleground, every vacuuming session a referendum on fairness.
But here’s the kicker: many men have perfected the art of seeming clueless while keeping their leisure time intact.
And by "art," I mean gaslighting—subtle, frustrating tactics that make women question whether they’re asking too much for simply wanting a partner, not an extra child.
So, let’s roll up our sleeves, grab some rubber gloves, and dive into the six greatest hits of household gaslighting, peppered with social science research to keep things spicy.
"Enshittification": A Therapist’s Lens on Family and Intimate Relationships
While"enshittification" may have been coined to describe the decline of online platforms, its relevance transcends the digital world.
As a marriage and family therapist, I see this word as an apt metaphor for the gradual deterioration of relationships when unchecked dynamics, selfishness, or neglect creep in.
Just as platforms once built on trust and utility erode due to profit-seeking, intimate connections can crumble when foundational values are sacrificed for short-term gains or external pressures.
The Complex Connection Between Dark Personality Traits and Mental Health: What a New Study Reveals
A recent study published in the Journal of Personality sheds light on how dark personality traits—narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy—interact with mental health over time.
These findings bring an important perspective to understanding the nuanced relationships between traits associated with manipulative or self-serving tendencies and psychological well-being.
The Influence of Pornography on Young Adults' Sexual Behaviors and Scripts: Key Findings from a Longitudinal Study
A new study published in Psychology of Popular Media provides a detailed look into the role of pornography in shaping sexual scripts and behaviors among university students in Germany.
Conducted over nearly two years, the study found that increased pornography consumption is linked to adopting risky sexual scripts and behaviors, shedding light on the broader impact of adult content in shaping sexual attitudes and practices.
Do Narcissists Have Demons? An Exploration of Psychology, Theology, and Metaphor
The question, "Do narcissists have demons?" invites a complex dialogue bridging psychology, theology, and cultural metaphor.
While psychological frameworks describe narcissism as a diagnosable personality disorder, many religious traditions interpret similar traits—pride, grandiosity, and manipulation—as evidence of spiritual affliction or even demonic influence.
Let’s explore explore the idea from a balanced perspective, offering insights into how psychology and theology can converge and diverge in addressing this provocative question.
Narcissistic Gift-Giving: Why It’s Not About You (and Never Was)
When the holidays roll around and that one friend or family member shows up with a gift that screams “Look at how amazing I am,” you might be dealing with a narcissist—but not just any narcissist.
Recent research published in the Journal of Personality reveals that the motivations behind narcissistic gift-giving are as complicated as the narcissists themselves.
Buckle up, because we’re diving into the wild world of narcissistic admiration, rivalry, and why some people just won’t bother to bring you a plant to your dinner party.
Understanding the Narcissistic Personality Inventory (NPI-13): A Quick, Reliable, (non-clinical) Tool for Measuring Narcissism
Narcissism—a word that’s become synonymous with self-centeredness and entitlement in today’s world. But in psychology, narcissism represents a specific set of personality traits that researchers study to understand individual behavior and social dynamics.
The Narcissistic Personality Inventory (NPI) has been one of the most widely used tools for assessing these traits in a non-clinical setting. And now, the NPI-13 provides a faster yet reliable way to evaluate narcissism.
Burning Out with the Dark Triad: How the Nastiest Personality Traits Are Fueling Academic Exhaustion
There’s a new twist on why students (and professors!) are collapsing under the weight of academic burnout. A recent study published in Acta Psychologica has revealed an intriguing—if slightly chilling—insight: personality traits from the infamous “dark triad” (Machiavellianism, narcissism, and psychopathy) might be setting up certain students for a crash course in exhaustion, thanks to their intense focus on appearing flawless. Let’s unpack this twisted love triangle of burnout, manipulation, and academic life.
Letting Go of the Past: How the Sunk Cost Fallacy Affects Relationships
Part of human experience is investing our time, energy, and love into building a meaningful connection with our partner.
This investment is part of what makes long-term relationships so precious, but it can also create a trap known as the "Sunk Cost Fallacy."
This psychological concept explains why people sometimes stick with decisions, behaviors, or relationships simply because they’ve already put so much effort into them — even if they’re no longer beneficial.
In couples therapy, exploring the Sunk Cost Fallacy can help partners see when past investments might be preventing them from making positive changes.
Understanding the "Cobra Effect" in Relationships: Why Some Good Intentions Can Backfire
In relationships, even the most loving intentions can sometimes lead to surprising results.
One partner may try to “fix” a problem or help their spouse in a way that feels supportive, only to see the effort create new challenges. This phenomenon is sometimes called the "Cobra Effect," named after an unintended consequence that famously occurred in colonial India.
It’s a reminder that sometimes, when we try to resolve one issue, we accidentally make things worse.
In couples therapy, the "Cobra Effect" becomes a helpful concept to discuss because it can open up conversations about how intentions, actions, and outcomes may not always align in the ways we expect.
By exploring this effect, couples can discover how to channel their good intentions into actions that truly support their relationship. Let’s take a closer look at how this happens and what couples can do to avoid some common relationship “cobra traps.”
The ‘Parentification’ Trap: How to Break Free of Parent-Child Dynamics in Relationships
In times of stress, even the strongest couples can slip into unconscious roles, with one partner taking on a “parent” role and the other falling into a “child” role.
This dynamic, called “parentification,” often emerges subtly. Over time, though, it can create a power imbalance, leading to resentment, dependency, and even erosion of intimacy.
Understanding how and why partners fall into these roles, as well as how to break free from them, is essential for a healthy, balanced relationship.
In this post, we’ll explore the “parentification” trap, how it can affect romantic partnerships, and practical ways couples can restore equality and mutual support.