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Why the narcissist stops having sex with you
The cessation of sexual activity in a relationship with a narcissist is really not all that complicated.
Narcissists often exhibit behaviors that can be confusing and hurtful, particularly in intimate relationships.
Understanding why a narcissist might stop having sex with their partner requires only a brief reminder of their psychological makeup, relationship dynamics, and the impact on the non-narcissistic partner. Narcissists are usually quite predictable.
13 Signs of a Narcissistic Wife
Is your wife a mystery wrapped in an enigma and topped with a sprinkle of chaos? You might be dealing with a narcissistic spouse.
Understanding these traits can help you navigate the emotional minefield with a little more ease and humor.
Here are 13 signs to watch out for…buckle up!
The Woes of the Privileged: Why we focus on life’s challenges
It’s fascinating how some people, blessed with health, success, and relative happiness, still manage to lament about being unfairly treated. Psychological research offers an intriguing explanation for this phenomenon.
Introducing the ‘Headwind Effect’ Dr. Shai Davidai and Professor Thomas Gilovich have termed this fascinating discovery the ‘headwinds/tailwinds asymmetry.’
It’s like riding a bicycle: you hardly notice the wind at your back but grumble incessantly about every gust in your face.
Our minds, it seems, are magnetically drawn to the barriers we encounter, making obstacles feel more prominent than our advantages.
Here are some eye-opening practical consequences
Climate Change and Mental Health: The growing crisis and some ideas for coping
Today, more than 25% of the world’s population reports negative feelings, such as sadness, social isolation, and loneliness.
In turn, more than 150,000 people between the ages of 15 and 29 die by suicide each year, according to data from the World Health Organization.
Although it may seem hard to believe, climate change is a direct threat that can increase these figures.
Let’s learn why…
The 10 Laws of Human Relational Stupidity
Welcome, gentle readers, to the mystifying, sometimes maddening, and often hilarious landscape of human relationships.
As a science-based couples therapist, I have seen it all: the good, the bad, and the downright ridiculous.
Today, submitted for your approval, are the "10 Laws of Human Relational Stupidity" because sometimes, understanding what not to do can be just as enlightening as knowing what to do.
Is Verbal Abuse a Crime?
Verbal abuse, characterized by the use of language to demean, belittle, or control another person, can have profound psychological effects.
While the emotional and mental harm caused by verbal abuse is indisputable, whether it constitutes a crime depends largely on jurisdictional laws and specific circumstances.
This article aims to provide a comprehensive understanding of verbal abuse, exploring its implications, legal status, cultural differences, and related concepts.
The hidden effects of stress on brain cell functionality
Recent research reveals that experiencing significant stress over a lifetime is linked to decreased functionality of key brain cells.
This study highlights a biological connection between our life experiences and physical changes in the brain, specifically focusing on the impact of psychosocial stress on brain cell mitochondria.
This is how neurosciences describe Developmental Trauma.
Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) abandonment depression, and procrastination
Unaddressed trauma often resurfaces when folks with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) start pursuing their authentic goals.
These painful emotions, coupled with a lack of coping skills, lead them to revert to maladaptive behaviors such as substance abuse, self-harm, and binge eating.
This unconscious self-protection mechanism manifests as procrastination, preventing them from completing their tasks.
An appreciation of Dr. Elinor Greenberg
Elinor Greenberg’s Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations: The Pursuit of Love, Admiration, and Safety is a seminal work that delves deeply into the adaptive strategies individuals develop in response to their early emotional environments.
Greenberg’s approach is unique in its empathetic and non-pathologizing perspective, seeing these adaptations not as immutable disorders but as dynamic responses to specific developmental contexts.
Elinor is changing how we think about personality disorders at a time when we sorely need a new paradigm.
The Empathy Crisis: Why Americans are caring less and what we can do about it
Concern and care for others' feelings are virtues we seek to instill in our children, yet they are sorely lacking in many adult Americans today.
Scientific research supports the notion that Americans care less for others and more about themselves.
Sara Konrath, PhD, an associate professor of philanthropic studies at Indiana University and director of the Interdisciplinary Program on Empathy and Altruism Research, has a lot to say about where we are as a culture right now.
Let’s discuss why empathy is declining and what we can do to increase kindness and compassion in our communities.
The persistence of narcissism through time: Can couples therapy help?
If you’re hoping that the narcissist in your life will change, a new study suggests you may have to wait a very long time. And even then, the change might be minimal.
A study published in the journal Psychological Bulletin analyzed 51 studies with more than 37,000 participants from North America, Europe, and New Zealand. The research explored how narcissism changes over a person’s lifespan.
While the researchers found that narcissism gradually declined with age, “the results show that this decline is not as large as one might hope,” said Ulrich Orth, the lead author and a professor of developmental psychology at the University of Bern in Switzerland.
When Narcissists Grieve: How to understand their complex emotions
Grieving the loss of a loved one is a deeply personal and often excruciating experience.
But what happens when a narcissist is faced with such a profound life event?
The grieving process for folks with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) can be markedly different from that of others, shaped by their unique psychological makeup.
Understanding how narcissists grieve can shed light on their behavior and offer pathways for ways to offer compassion and support.