Welcome to my Blog

Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.

Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.

Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.

Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.

Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel

P.S.

Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.

 

Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw

Women with ADHD and Risky Behaviors: A Groundbreaking Study

A new study published in BMC Psychiatry has revealed that women with ADHD are more likely than men with the condition to engage in risky behaviors.

This finding underscores the importance of recognizing and addressing sex-specific differences in how ADHD manifests and is treated, offering valuable insights for clinicians and individuals navigating this condition.

Read More
Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw

The Neuroscience of Mindfulness: How Meditation Cultivates Calm, Clarity, and Focus

Mindfulness meditation isn’t just about finding a moment of peace in a chaotic world—it’s about reshaping how your brain experiences life.

According to research published in the International Journal of Psychophysiology, mindfulness fosters a remarkable state of relaxed alertness, blending tranquility with laser-sharp focus.

It’s like giving your brain a cozy blanket and a cup of coffee at the same time.

If you’ve ever thought mindfulness was just about zoning out, think again. Let’s explore how this practice lights up your brain and makes your day a little brighter.

Read More
Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw

The Science of Career Personalities: What Your Job Says About You

Ever wonder if your job is shaping your personality—or if your personality guided you to your job in the first place?

A fascinating new study published in the Journal of Applied Psychology explored personality profiles across 263 occupations, revealing distinct personality patterns tied to specific professions.

Spoiler alert: it turns out not all accountants are shy, and not all salespeople are extroverts, but the trends are as entertaining as they are enlightening.

Read More
Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw

How Many Conflicting Theories of ADHD Are There Anyway?

Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is one of the most complex neurodevelopmental conditions to study, and it shows no signs of yielding simple answers.

From neuroscientists mapping dopamine pathways to sociologists critiquing institutional norms, ADHD has sparked debates across disciplines.

The result?

A mosaic of conflicting theories that reflect the diverse and multifaceted nature of this condition. Let’s take a deeper dive into these theories, bringing in the latest research and exploring the interplay of biology, psychology, and social factors.

Read More
Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw

Surprising ADHD Research: Greater Life Demands Linked to Reduced Symptoms?

ADHD is often thought of as a persistent, unchanging condition, but new research is challenging that view. A long-term study published in the Journal of Clinical Psychiatry reveals that ADHD symptoms often fluctuate over time, influenced by life circumstances and environmental factors. For many, ADHD is not a static diagnosis but a dynamic condition with periods of remission and recurrence—a finding that offers both hope and a more nuanced understanding of the disorder.

Read More
Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw

Autism and the Cuteness Effect: A Deeper Dive into Social Perception and Attention

What makes something “cute”?

For most of us, it’s the irresistible features of a baby’s face—big eyes, round cheeks, and a small nose—or the playful antics of a puppy or kitten.

These traits trigger the cuteness effect, a universal response hardwired into human biology to draw attention and evoke caregiving behaviors.

But how do children on the autism spectrum experience this phenomenon?

A recent study published in the Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders explored this question, uncovering nuanced differences in how autistic children engage with cute imagery based on the severity of their symptoms.

Read More
Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw

Tactile Massage and ADHD: A Holistic Approach to Managing Symptoms

Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) affects approximately 5% of children and adolescents worldwide, presenting challenges in focus, hyperactivity, and impulse control.

Traditional treatments, such as medications and behavioral therapies, can be effective, but they are not without limitations. Families often seek non-pharmacological approaches, either due to side effects or incomplete symptom relief from standard therapies.

A recent study published in Complementary Therapies in Clinical Practice explores the potential of tactile massage as a gentle, non-invasive intervention for adolescents with ADHD, offering promising results in reducing symptoms and improving quality of life.

Let’s discuss these findings, and the broader implications of tactile massage. We will also touch on how community mental health programs might apply research to adopt integrative, patient-centered approaches to ADHD care.

Read More
Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw

Building Emotional Intimacy with Small Steps: The "Foot-in-the-Door Technique" for Relationships

In some neurodiverse relationships, building emotional intimacy can sometimes feel like climbing a mountain. We want to be close to our partner, sharing dreams, fears, and everything in between.

But expecting deep emotional closeness all at once can feel overwhelming, especially if one or both partners aren’t used to regularly opening up on that level.

Here’s where psychology’s “Foot-in-the-Door Technique” can help couples ease into a deeper connection without pressure.

The Foot-in-the-Door Technique, originally described in social psychology, suggests that people are more likely to agree to larger requests if they’ve first agreed to smaller ones.

This principle can be a helpful approach in relationships, too, where it can create a gradual path toward greater intimacy. Here’s how it works in couples therapy, along with some tips for using this technique to grow closer in a supportive, low-pressure way.

Read More
Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw

The Story of Emily and David – Building a Partnership in Marriage and Business

Meet Emily and David, a couple who’ve not only built a marriage but also an impressive real estate portfolio. They own most of 2 square blocks in downtown of their small hometown in Western Massachusetts, making them known locally as the “power couple.”

David, an entrepreneur on the autism spectrum, is strategic and detail-oriented.

His wife, Emily, is a natural-born leader—a confident, dominant personality who’s decisive in both business and their relationship. Their dynamic is a fascinating balance of strengths, but it also brings challenges.

In therapy, Emily and David are seeking ways to manage their contrasting styles without letting business stress and power struggles erode their relationship.

Let’s explore the unique complexities of being in a relationship with a dominant partner, especially when one partner is on the autism spectrum, and dive into real research-backed strategies to help them—and others—find balance and respect.

Read More
Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw

Safe Mode vs. Flexible Mode in Autism

Understanding the different states that autistic people navigate—often called "safe mode" and "flexible mode"—can be a transformative approach for caregivers, educators, and friends alike.

These states aren’t rigid; they represent adaptive ways that autistic people respond to the world, based on their environment, sensory input, and sense of safety.

Read More
Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw

Identity Reconstruction and the “Late Autism Diagnosis Effect”

A later-in-life autism diagnosis can prompt a significant identity shift.

Research highlights that adults diagnosed with autism often engage in “retrospective re-evaluation,” where they revisit and reinterpret past experiences through an autism lens (Leedham et al., 2020).

This can lead to a cascade of emotions: relief at finally understanding oneself, grief for past misunderstandings, and often a period of disorientation as they reconstruct their identity with this new knowledge.

Studies show that folks with a late autism diagnosis may experience a form of “identity crisis” as they come to terms with the ways autism has shaped their interactions, experiences, and self-concept (Tan, 2018).

This re-evaluation can be empowering but also mentally exhausting as it often means questioning years or decades of one’s life narrative.

Read More
Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw Neurodiverse Couples Daniel Dashnaw

Neurodiverse Queer Memes: Finding Joy, Humor, and Connection at the Intersection of Queer and Neurodivergent Identities

In the wonderful world of internet culture, memes bring people together in relatable, sometimes hilariously specific ways. And if you’re someone who identifies as both neurodivergent and queer, you know that these intersections come with their own set of quirks, challenges, and joys. Enter the “gay neurodiverse meme”—a growing corner of the meme universe where being both queer and neurodivergent is not only celebrated but downright hilarious. These memes capture the nuances of LGBTQ+ neurodivergent life, where sensory overload, literal thinking, and the quest for social belonging all play out in technicolor, with equal parts humor and heart.

Read More