Let’s start with a simple, chilling truth:
If your first lessons about sex came through violence and betrayal, adult conversations about intimacy may still feel like combat drills.

Now picture this: you're in a quiet lab in Canada. You've brought your partner. You're here to talk—on camera—about the one sexual issue that bothers you most.

Then, like some surreal therapy-themed video game, you’re handed a joystick.

You’ll use it to track, second-by-second, exactly how you felt while watching yourself argue about sex.

No pressure.

This isn't dystopian couples therapy—it's a groundbreaking experiment led by psychologist Noémie Bigras (2024). The study tried to map how childhood trauma rewires adult emotional responses during sexual disagreements.

And spoiler alert: attachment anxiety, not avoidance, turned out to be the real saboteur in the room.

Not All Trauma Is Equal, Especially When It Comes to Sex

In the world of relationship advice, most books speak in generalities—“partners,” “loved ones,” “communication breakdowns”—as if all relationships follow the same emotional map.

But if you’re in a relationship with another man, you know that map may be drawn quite differently.

That’s where Opening Up: A Communication Workbook for Male Couples by Rick Miller comes in—not just as a workbook, but as a lifeline.

It’s not loud, it’s not flashy, but it is deeply specific, and quietly revolutionary.

Let’s take a closer look at why this book has struck such a chord with therapists, couples, and reviewers alike.

Pregnant people Google some truly wild stuff at 3 a.m.—including, “Can my baby feel it when we have sex?” and “Will frequent lovemaking while pregnant affect my baby’s brain?”

These are the kinds of questions that belong to our most vulnerable and intimate selves—the ones that suddenly appear while brushing your teeth or halfway through watching The Great British Bake Off.

So let’s do this gently, but truthfully. In a world full of misinformation, medical shame, and grandma’s unsolicited advice, here’s the real story.

They both have impressive LinkedIn bios. She leads investor relations at a global private equity firm. He heads product at a fintech unicorn.

Together, they pull in a mid-seven-figure income—but unlike some high-achieving couples, they’re not in a quiet turf war.

They’re in alignment.

This is the story of a new generation of power couples who’ve replaced old narratives of dominance and silent resentment with something healthier: shared financial vision, collaborative planning, and emotional partnership.