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The "Tall Girl" Problem: How Women's Success Narrows the Dating Pool
The "Tall Girl" problem is a metaphor that captures a growing dilemma in modern dating: as women rise in economic, educational, and social status, the pool of men who meet their criteria for a partner narrows significantly.
Just as a tall woman might struggle to find a taller man who fits her preferences, a successful woman faces challenges finding a man who matches—or exceeds—her accomplishments in the areas she values most.
Why Does the "Tall Girl" Problem Exist?
Do Women Have a Sixth Sense About Relationships? New Research Untangles the Mystery
When it comes to love, is it true that women have an intuitive radar for spotting trouble in paradise? Pop culture has long portrayed women as relationship whisperers, armed with an uncanny ability to forecast the rise and fall of romantic partnerships.
From rom-coms to watercooler gossip, the belief in women's superior "relationship instincts" is as enduring as it is compelling. But does science back up this idea? According to a fascinating new study, the answer is... complicated.
While women’s commitment levels were found to be a stronger predictor of relationship dissolution in mixed-gender couples, the plot thickens: men’s and women’s evaluations of love and satisfaction are equally critical. So, are women the oracles of relationships?
Or is the story more nuanced?
Are People in Relationships Happier Than Singles? Science Says Yes—With a Catch
Ever wondered if couples are really happier than their single friends?
Maybe you’ve scrolled through Instagram, side-eyeing those picture-perfect couples, while quietly relishing your solo Netflix binge.
Well, the verdict is in: people in relationships tend to be happier than singles, but—as with all things in life—it’s complicated.
A recent cross-cultural study, published in Evolutionary Psychological Science, dives deep into the emotional wellbeing of singles and couples across 12 countries.
The research reveals that intimate relationships, especially good ones, are strongly tied to higher life satisfaction and emotional wellbeing.
But before you run off to find a partner (or throw your phone across the room), let’s unpack the nuances with a dash of humor and a whole lot of science.
Does Marriage Help You Age More Gracefully? For Men, Yes. For Women, It’s a Mixed Bag
Marriage and aging: a duo that’s been studied for decades, but new research reveals the relationship is a bit like your in-laws—complicated.
A study published in International Social Work offers fresh insights, showing that married men are more likely to age gracefully, while for women, the benefits of marriage seem a little more... situational.
For women, marital stability—not just marriage itself—might hold the key to thriving in later years.
Let’s dig into the findings, sprinkle in a little humor (and empathy), and explore what this means for all of us.
Purity Culture and Bad Sex: New Research Reveals Why “Saving Yourself” Might Just Spoil Everything
If you spent your teen years pledging purity and dreaming of your future spouse, only to later discover that your romantic life feels more “oh no” than “oh wow,” you’re not alone.
New research published in Sociology of Religion has uncovered a less-than-holy revelation: for many white Christian women who embraced purity culture, the “gift” they were saving for marriage came wrapped in sexual pain, shame, and dissatisfaction.
Romantic Love and Sexual Frequency: Challenging What We Thought We Knew
Romantic love—the fluttering hearts, endless daydreams, and passionate late-night texts. For centuries, it's been romanticized as the ultimate catalyst for everything from epic poetry to—you guessed it—frequent romps between the sheets.
But what if we told you that the link between romantic love and sexual frequency isn't as straightforward as a Hollywood rom-com makes it out to be?
New research led by Adam Bode from the Australian National University is here to upend our long-held beliefs, with findings that may surprise even the most seasoned relationship gurus.
Evolving Definitions of Intimacy in 2024: Redefining Connection Beyond the Physical
When most people hear the word "intimacy," their minds may drift to classic romantic images: candlelit dinners, soft music, and stolen glances across a table.
But in 2024, couples are navigating an evolving landscape of what intimacy means, moving far beyond physical connection to emphasize emotional closeness, shared experiences, and profound understanding.
This shift is not just an interesting trend; it's a crucial development in relationship health that reflects the changing priorities of modern partnerships.
Let’s consider the intricacies of how couples are redefining intimacy, why it matters, and how to strengthen it in a fast-paced, often distracting world.
The Challenge of Maintaining Passion and Intimacy in Long-Term Relationships: The Science and Growth Behind Rekindling the Spark
When couples start their journey together, passion often feels like an unstoppable force.
It’s exhilarating, filled with spontaneous moments, and defined by the thrill of discovery. However, as time passes, passion naturally evolves into something different—companionate love.
This isn’t a flaw; it’s part of a maturing process that reflects the deepening of the bond between partners.
Understanding the science behind why passion fades and how it contributes to the growth of a relationship can empower couples to rekindle and sustain intimacy with newfound appreciation and intention.
How Your Personality Shapes Your Love Story: A Therapist's Perspective
Is it just your partner's quirks that make or break your relationship, or could the real key be... you?
Well, buckle up, because fresh research suggests that your own personality might be calling the shots in your love life more than you think.
A study published in Personality & Individual Differences finds that who you are—especially your quirks, anxieties, and, yes, how well you remember to put the toilet seat down—can make a bigger impact on your long-term relationship satisfaction than anything your partner does. (I know, it's a lot to take in.)
Love, Luxury, and Large Age Gaps: Why Some American Men Marry Younger Women (and What It Means for Marital Bliss)
Let’s talk about a common American phenomenon that keeps both psychologists and dinner party conversations buzzing—accomplished older men marrying women who are, let's say, a couple of decades (give or take a few years) younger.
While it’s easy to assume these relationships are all about luxury and adventure, social science reveals a more nuanced picture.
This blog will delve into the complexities of age-gap marriages, with a special focus on evolutionary psychology, marital satisfaction, and the everyday ups and downs that come with living life alongside someone in a different stage of it.
The Hidden Danger of a Sexless Life for Women: Is Intimacy Saving Your Life?
Feeling like intimacy has taken a backseat in your life? It turns out that a lack of regular sexual connection could be impacting more than just your relationship—it might be quietly affecting your overall health.
A recent study published in the Journal of Psychosexual Health has uncovered some eye-opening findings: women who rarely have sex are at a significantly higher risk of dying compared to those who make time for intimacy each week.
But there's more to this story, especially when we consider the complex role that mental health and our culture play in shaping our intimate lives.
When You Both Have PhDs: Love, Academia, and a Life of the Mind
Finding love when both partners have PhDs is a bit like winning the relationship lottery. You’ve got stimulating conversations, shared ambitions, and a mutual appreciation for those obscure journals nobody else reads.
But what happens when two brainy people fall in love, and how does it impact your day-to-day dynamics?
As a therapist, I’ve occasionally had a front-row seat to the unique challenges and joys that come with being a “PhD couple.” So let’s consider the quirks, the cultural narcissism, and the sometimes-hilarious moments that come with combining love and academia.