
Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
The Power of Humor and Acceptance…
A recent study suggests that humor and acceptance trump bickering in intimate relationships over time.
While disagreements may dominate the early stages of marriage, they often evolve into moments of tenderness as time progresses.
Here’s what is most fascinating…this positive trend tends to persist regardless of the satisfaction level within couples…
What’s the big deal about eye contact during sex?
Eye contact during sex is a topic that fascinates researchers, therapists, and the rest of us as well…
The act of locking eyes during intimate moments can convey a myriad of emotions, from vulnerability and trust to passion and connection.
But it’s not for everyone…
The Power of Hugging Until Relaxed…
Renowned for his groundbreaking insights into human sexuality and relational dynamics, Schnarch has transformed countless partnerships through his innovative approaches.
Among his most powerful techniques is the concept of "hugging until relaxed."
In this definitive guide, we explore Schnarch's revolutionary idea and its potential to deepen emotional intimacy and foster profound connection between partners.
The Power of a 6-Second Kiss…
Renowned for his groundbreaking research on marital stability and relationship dynamics, Gottman's insights have transformed countless partnerships worldwide.
One of his lesser-known, yet incredibly potent recommendations is the concept of the "6-second kiss."
Let’s explore this simple, yet profound practice's science, significance, and transformative potential.
The Impact of a Growth Mind Set…
A recent study established a correlation between a growth mindset and a high school student's ability to cope with stress and maintain physical health.
The study captures the essence of adolescence as a transformative period and recognizes the influence of societal perceptions, as depicted in iconic films like The Breakfast Club or Back to the Future.
These portrayals often cement labels, shaping a human’s self-perception throughout high school and beyond…
“ I carried a watermelon…….”
In the realm of pop culture, certain phrases and scenes embed themselves into our collective consciousness, becoming symbolic markers of larger themes and emotions.
One such instance is the iconic line from the 1987 film "Dirty Dancing…" "I carried a watermelon."
Let’s jump in!
Is a Sense of Purpose Sexy?
Could a clear sense of direction in life make you more appealing to potential romantic partners?
A study of dating profiles finds that having a sense of purpose makes you more attractive to others.
It’s also true that people with a greater sense of purpose in life have more satisfying relationships, which they report being more committed to and invested in…. Let’s jump in…
The Power of Nature Immersion…
Picture this: You're surrounded by towering trees… the scent of pine wafting through the air, birds singing their melodies overhead, and a gentle breeze rustling the leaves.
This isn't just a scene from a postcard; it's a moment of nature immersion, a powerful experience that can positively impact your brain and nervous system in ways you might not even realize…
Self-compassion… German researchers say couples therapists should teach it… Really?
A study finds that embracing self-compassion in romantic relationships increases couples' happiness.
The research reveals that men, in particular, experience greater relationship satisfaction when their partners exhibit self-compassion…
Does the quality of self-compassion enhance individual well-being and positively impact our partner’s happiness?
Which gender is more loyal in a relationship?
Which gender is more loyal in a relationship?
I appreciate your curiosity, but it’s sort of the wrong question.
Research into gender differences in loyalty unveils a complex interplay of societal expectations, individual characteristics, and relational dynamics.
Let’s jump in…
Expectations in Relationships…
Expectations in relationships often serve as silent architects shaping the unspoken dynamics between romantic partners.
How we perceive, communicate, and negotiate these expectations can profoundly impact the health and longevity of our relationships.
Couples therapy with dashed expectations can be challenging… I've witnessed firsthand the pivotal role expectations play in fostering intimacy or breeding discontent.
How to bring back intimacy in a marriage…
It’s a well-known fact that, as time passes, couples may feel distant, disconnected, and longing to rediscover the spark that once ignited their relationship…
As a couples therapist, I have witnessed firsthand the challenges couples face in maintaining intimacy over time.
However, through Tali Sharot's insights on habituation, we can explore innovative interventions to bring back intimacy in marriage…