Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
How not to face into emotion…
Yale found that humans were far more accurate in discerning the emotions of others more accurately without looking at their facial expressions.
But how?
Why I live in the Berkshires….
A torrent of research over decades has consistently confirmed a salient point:
Living in the woods is good for you…
4 Traits for a happy marriage…
Why are researchers continuing to dump on Anxious Attachment?
The findings in this 2019 involve genetic markers, but also a Scarlet Letter for Anxious Attachment…
7 Sweet things to say to your husband in a rough patch
Here are 7 carefully chosen things to say to your husband in your otherwise good marriage that has hit a somewhat cranky time.
They’re different from the kinds of things you’re saying now.
Hopefully, they’ll help revive your friendship at this stressful time. I’ll try to explain my thinking behind each idea…
4 Pillars of well-being…
A fairly new study suggests that there are 4 pillars of psychological well-being.
Awareness, connection, insight and purpose are the best antidotes we have for cultural gridlock.
A renewed cultural focus on these load-bearing pillars can help all struggling humans to improve their emotional well-being…
Holiday rules for a happier marriage…
Couples Therapy Inc. recently posted not 1, not 2, but 3 blog posts written by me years ago.
They are… right now…. presenting my content on their website as written by their “Former Staff Writer.”
They did this to needle a 70 year-old man during the holidays….
Sinatra & the Stoics do Group Therapy…
Research finds that the Stoics, and Sinatra were right!
Accepting and adapting to circumstances that can not be changed is linked to fewer negative emotions.
Why the archetype of the grumpy old man is bullsh*t
Many of us will change much more than we imagine over the coming decades.
For example, as we get older, many of us become more emotionally stable, more agreeable and even more conscientious!
7 Minutes to marital satisfaction…
Can a brief 7 minute thought experiment, conducted only 3X a year keep you from falling out of love?
Can one word illumine a marriage?
Research keeps reminding us over and over…
An attitude of gratitude with brighten your bond…
The upside of being a slob…
I love it when a piece of research explains away a fact of life, leaving in it’s wake, a calm self-acceptance.
For some smartypants humans, this research will elicit a sigh of relief…
The power of abstract thinking…
I can’t help myself! It’s endlessly fascinating to me when research helps us tweak and goose our minds to work a little better for us.
I love brain hack studies!
This one is particularly cool…