
Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
The truth about home buying happiness…
Humans tend to distort how happy they will be when they buy a new home.
What is the relationship between internal and external motivation that tells us when we have “enough”?
Can hugs protect you from the flu?
The lengths to which some researchers will go…
… and the things folks will do for $1000,… and for science, of course!
An economic link between marriage and depression…
There is an economic link between marriage and depression… the researchers believe it’s related to the “pooling of resources”.. but I think otherwise…
What objects in your home say about your relationship…
Did you know that objects in your home, and how you interact with them, can be an intimate window into your relationship?
Very brief reminders of being loved and cared for can soothe an overly-anxious brain…
There is a key idea to remind your partner off when they are getting anxious and stressed in conversation with you…
The idea is… that despite present difficulties, they are loved and cared for…
In fact, the research suggests that the more anxious they are… the better this works…
Community gardening and mental health…the science is in!
Who would have guessed? An important breaking study reveals that community gardening might be the most elegant mental health intervention of all time…. Why?
This one trait in your partner could increase your odds of reaching the age of 85 by 70%
We humans in intimate bonds exert a profound effect upon one another.
But is it true that if my partner exudes optimism… I’m 70% more likely to live longer?
Yup.
New research from Finland: Hug more and synchronize your brains…
Neuroscience enhances are understanding of human proxemics and intimacy.
New technology explains how humans synchronize their brains… with hugs.
A quick hack to predict whether the two of you will marry…
How accurately you remember this has been highly correlated with marriage by a respected relationship researcher… what is it?
Expectations in marriage…what does the science show?
Expectations in marriages has been a flashpoint among couples therapy thought leaders.
Which is better? High expectations? Or lower, more modest appreciation for the difficulties of marriage?
New research from Germany: 2 Personality traits in women that are correlated with long-term marital satisfaction
Research from Germany suggests that 2 specific personality traits in women are correlated with a high level of marital satisfaction. What are they?
We-ness Saves! The power of gratitude and appreciation in a committed relationship …Part 2
Researchers continue to uncover the incredible healing and restorative power of gratitude and appreciation…