Once upon a time, “family” was a word you inherited, whether it fit or not. Now, more people are building their own families—not through blood, but through belonging. And not just as a lifestyle choice, but as a survival strategy.

If you’ve ever felt more seen by your group chat than by your parents, you already know: found family isn’t a quirky subplot anymore. It’s the main story.

This post explores the rise of chosen families, the decline of the nuclear unit as default, and how memes, policy gaps, and hard-earned emotional intelligence have turned friendship into family—and family into something you sometimes choose to opt out of.

Once upon a time, children fell in love with frogs, dirt, and imaginary friends named Pickle. Today? They fall in love with screens that blink, ding, and know more about them than their grandparents do.

Welcome to parenting in the algorithmic era, where kids learn to swipe before they speak and toddlers can spell “YouTube” before their own last names.

This isn’t just a technological issue—it’s a developmental reckoning.

Let’s explore how digital childhood evolved, why it’s changing the emotional architecture of families, and what the memes and psychologists are saying about it—all while you scroll through this on a glowing rectangle of your own.

This week, therapists across America fielded an unusual number of calls. Not about anxiety, or politics, or the usual midlife spiral—but about a monologue. A sex monologue.

Specifically, the one delivered by Sam Rockwell’s character in The White Lotus.

A quietly brutal confession that begins with lust and ends somewhere closer to metaphysics. It’s the kind of moment that lands not because it’s shocking, but because it feels—against all odds—true.

Here’s what happens: a white, middle-aged American man moves to Thailand, chasing what he calls “Asian girls.” He sleeps with many. Too many. Eventually, the pleasure goes flat. The hunger remains

Then comes the twist.

He realizes he doesn’t want to sleep with them. He wants to be them.

Once, online dating was the punchline. “You met on Tinder?” was said with a smirk and the quiet assumption that someone had low standards or was going through something.

Now? Your therapist, your yoga teacher, and your aunt with the gluten-free sourdough starter have all probably met someone online.

But more importantly: the apps are changing. And so are the people using them.

The next era of digital dating is no longer about quantity. It's about intentionality.

Depth. Shared values. A love life with fewer finger cramps and more actual connection.

In short: dating apps are maturing. Slowly. Awkwardly. Like a golden retriever realizing it has legs.

There was a time when embarrassing family photos stayed safely in a dusty album, seen only by aunts with dubious taste in sweaters. Then, the internet happened. And with it, an entirely new species of parental oversharing emerged.

Enter sharenting—the perfectly blended word-smoothie of sharing and parenting, which, like most internet trends, started with good intentions and quickly veered into chaos.

Reddit's r/AmItheAsshole (AITA) has rapidly become a cultural barometer, with people worldwide submitting personal anecdotes and asking the internet to judge their behavior.

The subreddit’s premise is straightforward yet profoundly revealing about human nature: users describe relationship scenarios and ask, “Am I the asshole?” (or often abbreviated, AITA).

The community then decides: "YTA" (You're the asshole), "NTA" (not the asshole), "ESH" (Everyone sucks here), or "NAH" (No assholes here).

What’s fascinating—and occasionally alarming—is the depth of relationship patterns AITA lays bare.

Let’s delve deeper into the recurring themes, cultural insights, and social science implications found in AITA submissions.

Once upon a time, turning 40 meant buying a convertible, contemplating yoga, and maybe signing up for an overpriced mindfulness retreat. But today’s 40-somethings aren’t just having midlife crises—they’re experiencing midlife grief.

Not the kind triggered by existential dread over wrinkles, but grief that is very real, tangible, and often overwhelming.

This generation is being pummeled by loss—of parents, of dreams, of financial stability, and even of a coherent sense of identity in a world that seems to be reshaping itself every five minutes.

The grief of 40-somethings today isn’t just personal; it’s cultural, economic, and deeply systemic.

Let’s unpack why this cohort is feeling the weight of loss more profoundly than those before them—and why it’s colliding headfirst with the dominant cultural force of our time: cultural narcissism.

There was a time when teenagers accused their parents of being "unfair," "out of touch," or, in particularly dramatic moments, "literally ruining their lives."

But thanks to TikTok’s viral obsession with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), a growing number of teens are now diagnosing their parents as full-blown narcissists—and it’s creating a new kind of family tension.

Welcome to NarcTok, the corner of TikTok where every emotionally unavailable dad, strict mom, and slightly dismissive parent is suddenly a textbook narcissist.

Have you ever told yourself, just five more minutes of TikTok, only to emerge from your doomscrolling coma an hour later, blinking at the clock like you’ve just time-traveled?

Congratulations, you’re experiencing the wonders of dopamine—a tiny neurotransmitter with a giant influence over your life choices, attention span, and late-night existential crises.

In the great digital petri dish of social media, neurodiverse relationships are evolving in ways both fascinating and only occasionally mildly dystopian.

It turns out, when you connect billions of people through glowing rectangles, strange and wonderful things happen. Some of those things, miraculously, are even good. Others? A grand social experiment in real-time identity formation.

The Great Gathering of the Neurodivergent Tribes

Once upon a time, neurodivergent souls had to navigate the minefield of social interaction in person, where things like "eye contact" and "tone of voice" could make or break an entire relationship.

But now, thanks to the magic of the Internet, there exist sprawling digital landscapes where one can build meaningful relationships through memes, Discord servers, and long, heartfelt Twitter threads about executive dysfunction.

Welcome to the algorithmic family.

Once upon a time, families fought about curfews and who got the last slice of pizza. Now, they fight about excessive screen time, doomscrolling, and why Dad keeps posting Minion memes on Facebook.

Welcome to the 21st century, where social media has rewritten the rules of human interaction, including the delicate ecosystem of family life.

As a couples therapist, I watch social media function as both a relationship catalyst and a nuclear device. What once passed for passive-aggressive holiday dinners has been refined into a digital art form—subtweets, vaguebooking, and emoji-laden guilt trips.

But before we all resign ourselves to dystopian family group chats, let's examine three ways social media is reshaping family therapy and how we might, against all odds, still survive it.

High school: a time for acne, awkward dances, and, of course, that one relationship you’re sure will last forever.

But let's face it—between math tests and proposals, high school relationships can be as fleeting as a Snapchat streak.

So, what percentage of high school relationships actually make it past graduation?

Buckle up for some surprising stats and solid social science research as we delve into the reality of young love.