A new study published in Personal Relationships explores how perceptions of a romantic partner’s drinking habits are related to relationship satisfaction and mental health among young adults.

The study finds that when young men perceive their partner as having problematic drinking behavior, they are more likely to report increased symptoms of depression.

The findings also suggest that men’s mental health and relationship satisfaction are more impacted by the quantity and nature of drinking within the relationship than women’s.

Hoovering is a manipulative tactic used by folks—often those with narcissistic tendencies or other toxic personality traits—to regain control or re-enter a relationship after a breakup or period of separation.

The term is derived from the vacuum brand "Hoover," symbolizing how the person attempts to "suck" their former partner back into the relationship.Hoovering is rooted in control and manipulation, and understanding the psychological dynamics at play can help you see through the tactics.

Toxic humans, particularly those with narcissistic tendencies, thrive on validation and control.

They experience what’s known as narcissistic supply—a need for attention, adoration, and emotional engagement from those around them. When you break free and go no contact, you cut off this supply, leaving them feeling powerless or abandoned.

Hoovering is a way to reclaim that power. It often taps into emotional vulnerabilities, triggering feelings of guilt, nostalgia, or responsibility in the person who has been manipulated.

Research shows that toxic relationships, especially those with narcissists, can create something known as trauma bonds—emotional attachments that form during cycles of abuse and reconciliation (Carnes, 1997).

Our nervous system is smarter than we give it credit for.

Sometimes, when we’re too busy or emotionally invested to notice that something's off in our relationship, our bodies step in to give us a nudge (or a shove).

Here are five signs from your nervous system that it might be time to re-evaluate your relationship.

Respect is the foundation of any healthy relationship. Without it, the emotional connection starts to break down, leaving you feeling hurt and undervalued.

If you're sensing something isn't quite right, it may be time to take a closer look at how your partner is treating you. You might need to re-assess your relationship boundaries.

Here are nine signs that your partner may not be respecting you—and why that matters for your emotional well-being.

Relationships can be challenging, especially when you feel your partner isn’t as engaged as you are. If you’re questioning whether your partner is emotionally invested, you might be noticing subtle signs of detachment.

Here are 10 key behaviors that could indicate your partner isn't as fond of you as they once were—and what that means for your relationship.

Let’s face it: makeup has been around as long as people have had faces to put it on.

Cleopatra had her eyeliner; Marie Antoinette had her powdered wigs; and today, many of us can't leave the house without a touch of concealer (unless you’re a psychopath, but we’ll get to that later). So, what's behind our love affair with blush, mascara, and lipstick?

Apparently, your makeup habits might have a little something to do with your personality, and in some cases, the darker corners of it.

A recent study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior had a fascinating take: it seems that certain personality traits—particularly narcissism, extraversion, and (drumroll please) psychopathy—may influence how much makeup women slap on before heading out the door. Because nothing screams “I need admiration!” quite like contouring for a casual coffee run.

In the global race for a long life, Americans are trailing far behind.

A recent study published in BMJ Open reveals that the United States has the shortest life expectancy among six high-income, English-speaking countries.

This alarming trend raises serious questions about the state of health and healthcare in the land of the free.

The study, led by Jessica Ho from Penn State, analyzed life expectancy data from 1990 to 2019 across the United States, Canada, Ireland, the United Kingdom, Australia, and New Zealand.

The results are not pretty: Americans consistently lag behind their peers, with U.S. women living an average of 81.5 years and men just 76.5 years in 2019. In comparison, Australians are living significantly longer, with women reaching up to 85.5 years and men 81.4 years.

Hypersexuality, often referred to as compulsive sexual behavior, is a condition where an individual experiences intense and recurring sexual thoughts, urges, or behaviors that can interfere with their daily life.

It's essential to recognize the signs early to seek appropriate help and avoid potential negative consequences.

This self-assessment is designed to help you reflect on your sexual behaviors and thoughts to determine if they may be indicative of hypersexuality.

While this test is not a diagnostic tool, it can guide you toward better understanding your sexual health. If you score high, consider consulting with a mental health professional for a more comprehensive evaluation.

Emotional gridlock is a pervasive issue that can sabotage even the most committed relationships, leading to a cycle of frustration, resentment, and emotional disconnection.

Understanding the root causes and dynamics of emotional gridlock is crucial for couples seeking to break free from this destructive pattern.

This post will explore the concept of emotional gridlock, exploring its origins, the psychological theories that explain it, and practical strategies for overcoming it.

In the toxic and deadly realm of domestic violence, the nature of abuse varies significantly depending on the personality and behavior of the abuser.

Not all abusers are the same, and understanding the distinctions can be crucial for both recognizing the signs of abuse and implementing effective strategies for escape.

According to ground-breaking research by Neil Jacobson, Ph.D., and John Gottman, Ph.D., detailed in their seminal book When Men Batter Women (Simon and Schuster, 1998), there are two distinct types of abusive husbands: the "Cobras" and the "Pit Bulls."

This post will focus on the former—the Cobra husbands—and the calm and deadly ways they regulate and control their partners.

Let’s talk about the "silent treatment"—that infamous non-verbal smackdown where words are withheld like a toddler’s favorite toy.

We’ve all been there, on one side or the other, feeling the chill of silence when conversation could thaw the frost.

But where did this behavior come from, and why does it still have such a powerful hold on relationships?

In this post, we’ll explore the origins of the silent treatment, its evolution over time, and how it plays out differently across genders.

We’ll also dive into modern dynamics like stonewalling, and the "walk away wife" phenomenon, and, crucially, how American culture expresses this age-old tactic.

Domestic violence is often depicted as a unidirectional issue, with men as perpetrators and women as victims.

However, social science research has consistently revealed a more complex picture: domestic violence is frequently bi-directional, involving both men and women as perpetrators and victims.

Understanding this dynamic is essential for marriage and family therapy, especially when addressing the root causes of conflict and violence in relationships.