Let’s face it: makeup has been around as long as people have had faces to put it on.

Cleopatra had her eyeliner; Marie Antoinette had her powdered wigs; and today, many of us can't leave the house without a touch of concealer (unless you’re a psychopath, but we’ll get to that later). So, what's behind our love affair with blush, mascara, and lipstick?

Apparently, your makeup habits might have a little something to do with your personality, and in some cases, the darker corners of it.

A recent study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior had a fascinating take: it seems that certain personality traits—particularly narcissism, extraversion, and (drumroll please) psychopathy—may influence how much makeup women slap on before heading out the door. Because nothing screams “I need admiration!” quite like contouring for a casual coffee run.

In the global race for a long life, Americans are trailing far behind.

A recent study published in BMJ Open reveals that the United States has the shortest life expectancy among six high-income, English-speaking countries.

This alarming trend raises serious questions about the state of health and healthcare in the land of the free.

The study, led by Jessica Ho from Penn State, analyzed life expectancy data from 1990 to 2019 across the United States, Canada, Ireland, the United Kingdom, Australia, and New Zealand.

The results are not pretty: Americans consistently lag behind their peers, with U.S. women living an average of 81.5 years and men just 76.5 years in 2019. In comparison, Australians are living significantly longer, with women reaching up to 85.5 years and men 81.4 years.

Hypersexuality, often referred to as compulsive sexual behavior, is a condition where an individual experiences intense and recurring sexual thoughts, urges, or behaviors that can interfere with their daily life.

It's essential to recognize the signs early to seek appropriate help and avoid potential negative consequences.

This self-assessment is designed to help you reflect on your sexual behaviors and thoughts to determine if they may be indicative of hypersexuality.

While this test is not a diagnostic tool, it can guide you toward better understanding your sexual health. If you score high, consider consulting with a mental health professional for a more comprehensive evaluation.

Emotional gridlock is a pervasive issue that can sabotage even the most committed relationships, leading to a cycle of frustration, resentment, and emotional disconnection.

Understanding the root causes and dynamics of emotional gridlock is crucial for couples seeking to break free from this destructive pattern.

This post will explore the concept of emotional gridlock, exploring its origins, the psychological theories that explain it, and practical strategies for overcoming it.

In the toxic and deadly realm of domestic violence, the nature of abuse varies significantly depending on the personality and behavior of the abuser.

Not all abusers are the same, and understanding the distinctions can be crucial for both recognizing the signs of abuse and implementing effective strategies for escape.

According to ground-breaking research by Neil Jacobson, Ph.D., and John Gottman, Ph.D., detailed in their seminal book When Men Batter Women (Simon and Schuster, 1998), there are two distinct types of abusive husbands: the "Cobras" and the "Pit Bulls."

This post will focus on the former—the Cobra husbands—and the calm and deadly ways they regulate and control their partners.

Let’s talk about the "silent treatment"—that infamous non-verbal smackdown where words are withheld like a toddler’s favorite toy.

We’ve all been there, on one side or the other, feeling the chill of silence when conversation could thaw the frost.

But where did this behavior come from, and why does it still have such a powerful hold on relationships?

In this post, we’ll explore the origins of the silent treatment, its evolution over time, and how it plays out differently across genders.

We’ll also dive into modern dynamics like stonewalling, and the "walk away wife" phenomenon, and, crucially, how American culture expresses this age-old tactic.

Domestic violence is often depicted as a unidirectional issue, with men as perpetrators and women as victims.

However, social science research has consistently revealed a more complex picture: domestic violence is frequently bi-directional, involving both men and women as perpetrators and victims.

Understanding this dynamic is essential for marriage and family therapy, especially when addressing the root causes of conflict and violence in relationships.

In an age where the world seems to be spinning faster than ever, it’s no wonder many of us feel a growing sense of unease.

Whether it’s the pandemic, Monkey Pox, West Nile virus, political turmoil, economic instability, or the looming specter of climate change, threats seem to come from every direction.

This pervasive anxiety is not just a personal burden—it’s a virus that infects families and communities, manifesting in the form of anti-establishment attitudes.

I have a deep concern for the mental health of the American people, it’s crucial to understand how these sentiments are taking root and what we can do to mitigate their spread.

Divorce is rarely straightforward, but when it involves a covert narcissist, the emotional fallout can be especially disorienting.

Covert narcissists are adept at subtle manipulation, often leaving their partners questioning their own reality long after the relationship has ended.

In this post, we explore a fictional therapy journey with John, a husband who was abruptly discarded by his covert narcissist wife, Emily.

Through their sessions, we’ll uncover the unspoken apologies John craves but will likely never receive, and how understanding this reality can aid in his healing process.

What is a Vulnerable Narcissist?

Narcissism is often seen through the lens of grandiosity, where individuals display an inflated sense of self-importance, entitlement, and a need for constant admiration.

However, narcissism is more complex and multifaceted than just grandiose behavior. One of the less overt, but equally significant, forms of narcissism is vulnerable narcissism.

Vulnerable narcissism, also known as covert narcissism, presents with a different set of behaviors and emotional patterns, which often make it less recognizable but no less impactful.

You’ve probably heard about “quiet quitting” at work—where people do just enough to get by without fully committing or leaving their job.

But did you know this idea has started to creep into marriages too?

It's called "quiet quitting marriage," and it's when one or both partners slowly check out of the relationship without officially ending it. Let’s explore what quiet quitting marriage really means, why it’s happening, and what social science and social media have to say about it.

As a couples therapist, I’ve seen my fair share of relationship drama, but there’s something uniquely perplexing about the folks who exhibit traits like narcissism, psychopathy, Machiavellianism, and sadism.

What’s even more fascinating (and troubling) is that many of these folks genuinely believe they’re morally superior to others—even when their actions scream otherwise.

Let’s unpack this paradox by exploring the latest research in psychology and neuroscience, diving deep into the mind of the Dark Tetrad, and asking some tough questions about what makes these personalities tick.