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7 Ways narcissists discard you: When love turns to loathing
Navigating a relationship with a narcissist can feel like being on a rollercoaster designed by someone who hates fun.
One moment, you're on top of the world; the next, you're free-falling into emotional oblivion.
Here’s the 7 notorious ways narcissists discard you, peppered with insights from narcissism experts.
7 More things Narcissists do when they are alone (And 10 Things That Crush Their Ego)
Being alone can be a challenging experience for many, but for narcissists, it’s particularly complex.
Narcissistic folks thrive on attention, admiration, and validation from others – what’s commonly referred to as narcissistic supply.
Without this supply, they can feel empty and unfulfilled.
As a couples therapist, I've seen how these tendencies manifest, even in solitude. Here are seven things narcissists often do when they are alone, followed by ten things that can crush their ego.
10 indications that you're speaking with a Covert Narcissist
Covert Narcissism is Toxic Narcissism’s smarmy little brother.
Here are 10 signs you’re conversing with a Covert Narcissist. I’ll also discuss how most folks feel afterward.
Let’s jump in!
8 Things narcissists do when they are alone
Narcissism often manifests in grandiose behavior, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy. But what happens when the spotlight fades, and the narcissist is left alone?
As a couples therapist, I've seen how these moments of solitude can be particularly challenging for individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
Let's explore 8 behaviors narcissists typically engage in when they're by themselves, shedding light on their need for narcissistic supply and the struggles they face in isolation.
Cognitive biases in relationships
During an age of profound self-absorption, cognitive biases play an enormous role in relationship dynamics, often leading to miscommunication, conflict, and resentment.
When these biases are amplified by cultural narcissism, particularly prevalent in American society, the effects can be even more pronounced.
Let’s consider a few of cognitive biases, how they manifest in relationships, and how Cultural Narcissism emerges as a force multiplier.
Not all couples thrive on compassion: Study reveals some partners prefer selfishness
While conventional wisdom has long touted compassion as the secret sauce for relationship success, this study flips the script.
The traditional narrative tells us that couples who shower each other with compassion are happier, more caring, and more committed.
They're the ones who cancel plans to be with their partner, write love notes on the bathroom mirror, and remember to pick up their partner's favorite snacks.
But hold onto your hats, folks, because this study suggests that not everyone is on board with this lovey-dovey approach.
What is Benign Narcissism?
One phenomenon that continues to captivate my interest is the notion of Benign Narcissism.
This term, which used to describe the ability to straddle the line between healthy self-regard and destructive self-obsession, is particularly relevant in the context of American culture.
Let’s consider some of the dynamics of Benign Narcissism and its cultural manifestations and implications for individuals and society.
How to Divorce a Psychopath
Divorce is rarely easy, but when your partner is a psychopath, the process can become exponentially more challenging.
Psychopaths, with their lack of empathy, manipulative tendencies, and propensity for causing emotional havoc, present unique hurdles that require strategic planning and a strong support system.
Let’s consider how to go about divorcing a psychopath. Yeah, I’ll discuss the narcissists too…
Unpacking the addiction to Online Shopping
Welcome to the 21st century, where your smartphone is your new best friend, and your digital cart is always ready for some action.
As a marriage and family therapist, I've seen the strains that shopping addiction can place on relationships.
So today, let's focus on the folks who can't resist the siren call of a good deal.
Online shopping addiction isn't just about the thrill of the purchase; it's a complex dance with dopamine, the brain's feel-good chemical.
Unmasking the Malignant Narcissist: Overt vs. Covert
Narcissism is a term often tossed around casually, but when it comes to Malignant Narcissism, we're delving into a much darker and more complex territory.
In the realm of Malignant Narcissists, there are two primary types: Overt and Covert.
Each type presents its own unique challenges and requires different strategies for coping and understanding.
The Dynamics of a Malignant Narcissist
In the field of Marriage and Family Therapy, few conditions are as complex and destructive as Malignant Narcissism.
As a couples therapist, I've witnessed the profound impact this personality disorder can have on relationships, families, and individuals.
Understanding the dynamics of a Malignant Narcissist is essential for anyone trying to navigate the tumultuous waters of such a relationship.
Let’s briefly overview the characteristics, behaviors, and impacts of Malignant Narcissism, all while reflecting on broader questions about the direction of the human experiment.
The Covert Narcissist husband…7 tell-tale signs
In this post, I’ll describe both the 5 traits of a covert narcissist as well as subtypes and how these traits show up in marriage.
We’ll talk about why the covert narcissist is so hard to recognize because their wives complain that they appear so “nice” and “humble” and even anxious to please.
They seem to care about what other people think of them and they appear so helpful, and yet the Covert Narcissist is just a less happy and more complicated version of the NPD.