Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
Narcissistic Rage! it’s not just for breakfast anymore…
Humans who are high in narcissism are not particularly picky when it comes to how they attack others.
That’s a highly important finding now that we live in an online world…
3 Reasons why women, and perhaps all abused humans, remain in abusive relationships…
Women who were abused as children in their families of origin were more satisfied with their current abusive relationships than women who were not abused in childhood…
What if humans with childhood abuse histories are more satisfied in their abusive relationships because they have greater tolerance for abuse based on early life experiences, and resulting diminished expectations?
7 Warning signs for potential DV
Here’s some breaking research about how a couple might acquire a penchant toward domestic violence.
In this post, I’ll discuss 7 specific warning signs.
In other words, the more likely you are to experience these 7 signs, the more likely domestic violence becomes…
What’s the most plausible way to save face once you blow off your New Year’s resolution?
Some research questions are like an undulating serpent circumambulating the pathetic little circus of petty personal advantage and empty ease…
11 Critical tools for surviving the holidays with marital trouble…
Here’s another post I wrote in 2019 that can currently be found on the Couples Therapy Inc. website.
I’ve asked them so many times to return my work product… but they refuse.
They choose instead, to use it for themselves and are daring me to do something about it.
They did not ask my permission, and they attributed the authorship to a “Former Staff Writer.” instead of treating with courtesy and respect, by using my name.
How long does it take recover your self-esteem from a break-up?
A recent German study shows that relationship that had lasted a year or more before the ultimate breakup are particularly damaging to self-esteem.
Subsequently starting a new relationship increased self-esteem, as long as the new relationship lasts.
However, shorter relationships — those lasting less than a year — tended to reduce people’s self-esteem.
Men, and the bearing of bad news…
The human inclination to share intimate and personal information about ourselves is a critical pathway toward achieving authentic intimacy with other humans.
New research confirms something we already sort of suspected…men are disinclined to share bad news compared to women, a study finds.
Even though they’d like to learn how…
Patience, personality disorders, and the meaning of life…
Axel was right!… We all need a little patience.
A fascinating study from China discusses patience, personality disorders, and the meaning of life…
The Gottman Distance and Isolation Cascade
We know how a committed relationship painfully unravels. Gottman calls it the Distance and Isolation Cascade…
Why is it such a marriage killer?
The problem with a bad news sandwich…
Industrial psychologists have been offering the sad cuisine of a “bad news sandwich.”
Why is that a problem?
Even though you know better, you’ll probably choose your phone over another human…
Although people enjoy social interactions with other humans more, they still wind up using their phones to relieve boredom, according to a new study …
Conversations provide a strong boost to positive emotions, but people prefer to text or watch videos on their phones to pass the time, although they are less fun.
The problem with a nagging relationship…
The problem with a nagging dynamic in a relationship is its profound toxicity…
Here’s how to deal with a nagging relationship…