Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
When do the brightest humans tend to go to bed?
Why do the smartest humans have a specific sleep pattern?
Some would say it’s evolutionary…
Alexithymia and childhood trauma
A huge study of studies has correlated childhood maltreatment with alexithymia.
Alexithymia, which literally translates as ‘no words for emotions’, is a difficulty some humans have identifying and describing their emotions.
But it’s also a often a compellingly obvious indication of neurodiversity…
The power of intellectual confidence…
What is the notion of humility across neurotypes?
A little study from 8 years ago frustrates the researchers because they did not satisfy their neurotypical expectations…
Is a systematic, analytical focus the best approach to enhance empathy?
Occupational Psychologists at Harvard think that a systematic approach to promoting empathy is superior to a “gut-feeling” approach…
Here’s why they’re wrong…
Intense World Theory of Autism…
The Intense World Theory of Autism posits that, instead of autistic, neurodivergent humans being viewed as having differently wired minds, they should be seen as having more wiring with a sort of Big Brain Energy (sorry, couldn’t resist…) which is also ‘supercharged’.
Monotropism, Flow States, and Gottman Method Couples Therapy
When working with neurodiverse couples, integrating the concept of monotropism allows therapists to tailor interventions to align with each partner’s cognitive style.
But what is Monotropism?
What is Neurodivergent Burnout?
Neurodivergent burnout is a complex state that arises from the cumulative impact of stressors related to sensory overload, social demands, and the effort required to navigate an oppressively neurotypical world.
Milton’s Neurodiverse Double Empathy Problem
Recognizing the Double Empathy Problem with neurodiverse couples has significant implications for fostering effective communication and promoting inclusivity in their couples therapy.
Here’s why…
Nerodivergent Masking
Neurodivergent Masking.. what is it?
And why is it something we need to talk about so urgently?
The math of loneliness…
Therapists habitually rail against loneliness as a sign of our social atomization…
But a new 2023 study offers some hard math on loneliness, and some surprising findings…
What’s a neurotype?
If we could ever keep clinically apace with the consistent stream of discovery coming from neuroscience, then we’d eventually get up to speed in helping neurodiverse couples with an enhanced, and richer couples therapy experience.
Unfortunately… we’re not there yet.
Science-based couples therapy for twice-exceptional couples
The phrase "twice-exceptional" is used to describe humans who not only enjoy exceptional intellectual gifts, they’ve also experience learning, developmental or relational challenges uncommon to unexceptional humans.