Welcome to my Blog

Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.

Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.

Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.

Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.

Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel

P.S.

Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.

 

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Do lifelong readers enjoy cognitive and health benefits from reading fiction?

Reading fiction has been linked to better linguistic skills, according to recent research.

It doesn't matter if the fiction is as fantastical as Harry Potter or as classic as Charles Dickens; people who read fiction for pleasure tend to have superior language skills.

This contrasts with folks who read solely for information, often out of necessity, who score lower on language tests.

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Depressed again in just 2 Weeks? Here Are the 5 behaviors you must maintain!

Who knew that slacking off on certain activities could make you feel so down?

It turns out, a fascinating series of studies has identified 5 types of activities crucial for mental health.

Stop doing them, and you might find yourself on a fast track to depression.

But don't worry, I've got the scoop on what you need to keep those blues at bay. Let’s jump in!

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How depression can harm marriages: insights for couples during stressful times

Mental health problems can create a vicious cycle that severely damages relationships, especially during historically stressful times.

As a couples therapist, it’s essential to understand how depression affects both partners in a marriage and to use this knowledge to help couples navigate their struggles.

Research reveals that women who are depressed lose their ability to read emotions accurately, which negatively impacts their relationships.

This phenomenon, known as the loss of ‘empathic accuracy,’ causes significant strain and can lead to a cycle of increasing depression and relational distress.

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Positive vs.Negative Thinking- the science

Positive thinking is often touted as the key to happiness and well-being.

However, recent research suggests that attempting to "think positive" can actually worsen the emotional state of some people, especially those prone to worry.

As a couples therapist, I've seen how this paradoxical effect can play out in relationships, and understanding the nuances of positive thinking is crucial for effective therapy. Let’s jump in!

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Do fearful dreams of hunter-gatherers inform modern anxiety disorders?

As a family therapist, it's fascinating to explore how the dreams of our ancient ancestors may relate to the anxiety disorders we see today.

In hunter-gatherer societies, which still mirror the lifestyles of our early human ancestors, dreams play a crucial role in coping with threats and anxieties.

Recent cross-cultural research delves into the function of dreams among hunter-gatherer societies, suggesting that dreams help prepare us for anxiety-provoking situations in waking life. These are known as ‘simulation theories.’

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How being in a hurry reveals our true personalities

As a marriage and family therapist, I often emphasize that time is the very essence of life.

It's fascinating how our true selves emerge under the strain of time pressure, a phenomenon that could be described as "being in a hurry” — the way our authentic traits are exposed when we're in a hurry.

This exposure raises profound questions about our nature and the role of time in shaping our identities.

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Disrupted sleep in your 30s and 40s? There are consequences…

Greetings, gentle reader. Are you sleeping ok?

Did you know that, for some of you, how you’re sleeping now might be carving grooves into your cognitive destiny?

As you’ve probably noticed, this blog has an ongoing focus on sleep science.

A recent study has suggested that disrupted sleep patterns that are established in your 30s and 40s might impact memory later.

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