Dr. John Gottman has been conducting research on couples for over 40 years.

As a result of Gottman’s research in the love lab, he has categorized couples into five distinct types…which type are you?

When it comes to marital fight dissection, evidence-based Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) is by far the most relational model.

At the risk of being overly simplistic, it could be argued the entire EFT model is essentially one big fight autopsy.

Jonathan Haidt's book The Righteous Mind offers valuable insights for couples struggling with political differences.

According to Haidt, our moral judgments are based on six foundations: care/harm, fairness/cheating, loyalty/betrayal, authority/subversion, sanctity/degradation, and liberty/oppression.

When couples understand that their partner's political views are rooted in these deep-seated moral foundations, it becomes easier to empathize and communicate.

A meta-conversation is when a couple discusses how their past fights have evolved, paying particular attention to how they treated each other during that heated fight.

Meta originally comes from Greek and means “higher” or “above.”

Meta-conversations are a critical skill in marital repair.

One of the outstanding contributions of neuroscience and Gottman’s research is the notion of perpetual vs. solvable marital problems.

When a science-based couples therapist is assessing a new couple, it’s crucial to ascertain whether their problems are solvable or perpetual.

Gottman’s research shows that 69% of relationship conflict is about perpetual problems.

Why is conflict (which is inescapable in our most intimate friendships) so inherently fraught with peril?

Why do so many marital fights go so wrong… so fast?

Here’s what we know…

Disagreements and conflicts are natural in any relationship, but when your husband consistently instigates arguments and then shifts blame, it can create a toxic dynamic that erodes trust and intimacy.

Let’s explore the underlying reasons for this behavior and offer a few strategies to address and resolve these conflicts constructively…

When anger and resentment dominate your relationship, it can feel like there's no way out.

The constant fighting leaves you drained and hopeless, with divorce seeming like the only solution.

However, even in the midst of hostility, there is hope. Healing resentment is possible, and it can save your marriage…

We all know that anger and irritability disrupt the positive flow and cause discord between partners.

When a wife tells me, “My husband is always angry,” I’m first thinking about unmet needs…

Fair Fighting in marriage is an essential skill.

In this post, I will explain 8 essential guidelines for approaching marital arguments.

Here are the most essential guidelines for effectively managing marital conflict…

Marital fights are inevitable, but how couples navigate these conflicts can make all the difference.

Understanding how to not devalue each other in a marital fight is crucial for maintaining a healthy and thriving partnership…

A recent study reveals that it’s the accumulation of countless daily negatives that can quietly erode the foundation of love and connection rather than the absence of grand gestures or intense positives.

This notion resonates deeply with the observations made by renowned relationship expert Dr. John Gottman, who introduced the concept of the "golden ratio" of 5:1, suggesting that for every negative interaction, there should be at least five positive ones to maintain a healthy relationship…