Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
What to do if you miss trash day…
Let's tackle this with humor, imagining you and your partner facing the dire consequences of missing trash day!
As a couples therapist, missing trash day can actually be an opportunity for growth and understanding within a relationship.
Here's how you might approach it…
Why is my wife always mad at me?
The question "Why is my wife always mad at me?" echoes through the minds of many husbands, a poignant plea for understanding and resolution.
As a seasoned couples therapist, I recognize the gravity of this question and the layers of complexity it unveils within intimate relationships.
Let’s explore the reasons behind a wife's persistent anger and irritation, drawing upon empirical research, renowned thought leaders, and therapeutic methodologies…
The Top 10 things couples fight about…
As much as we'd like to believe our personal and professional lives exist in separate universes, they're more intertwined than a plate of spaghetti.
When work is smooth sailing but home life resembles a shipwreck, or vice versa, things can get pretty dicey…
What is Weaponized Kindness?
Weaponized kindness refers to the strategic and deliberate use of acts of kindness or generosity to achieve certain goals or outcomes, often in situations where one might not expect such tactics to be employed.
It typically involves using benevolent gestures or behaviors to persuade, manipulate, or influence.
The skill of taking Timeouts and Externalization
While marital conflict is unavoidable, emotional flooding, toxic fighting, and escalation are entirely preventable.
Here are 2 powerful ideas for what to do instead of fighting with your partner…
Flooding… and what to do about it…
Some of the most useful stuff in science-based couples therapy helps us to be kinder and more regulated…
It is when we really are so pissed, that we don’t give a sh*t, that we are the most epically unkind…
Here’s how to do better…
Why some unhappy partners prefer to suffer in silence…
Some humans are unlucky.
They never experienced a family of origin that confirmed their self-worth… Unfortunately, they refrain from complaining when they should…
3 Ways we humans struggle with Relational Ambivalence
There is a lot of talk these days about Relational Ambivalence. How does Perel’s idea of Relational Ambivalence relate to our ongoing epidemic of family estrangement?