Weaponized kindness refers to the strategic and deliberate use of acts of kindness or generosity to achieve certain goals or outcomes, often in situations where one might not expect such tactics to be employed.

It typically involves using benevolent gestures or behaviors to persuade, manipulate, or influence.

While marital conflict is unavoidable, emotional flooding, toxic fighting, and escalation are entirely preventable.

Here are 2 powerful ideas for what to do instead of fighting with your partner…

Some of the most useful stuff in science-based couples therapy helps us to be kinder and more regulated…

It is when we really are so pissed, that we don’t give a sh*t, that we are the most epically unkind…

Here’s how to do better…

Some humans are unlucky.

They never experienced a family of origin that confirmed their self-worth… Unfortunately, they refrain from complaining when they should…

There is a lot of talk these days about Relational Ambivalence. How does Perel’s idea of Relational Ambivalence relate to our ongoing epidemic of family estrangement?