
Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
Navigating the "Work Husband/Work Wife" Meme: A Dual Perspective from the Worlds of Labor and Love
As a science-based couples therapist with a background in labor studies, I’ve seen how deeply our work lives intersect with our personal lives.
This intersection is particularly evident in the "Work Husband/Work Wife" meme—a concept that highlights the unique and often intimate relationships that form between colleagues.
While these relationships can provide essential support and camaraderie, they also raise important questions about boundaries, emotional fidelity, and the increasingly blurred lines between work and home life.
Sexism and Cheating: Why Even "Nice Guys" Might Stray
A new study, recently published in The Journal of Sex Research, sheds light on the surprising connection between different forms of sexism and infidelity among men.
The research reveals that both hostile sexism—blatant negative attitudes towards women—and benevolent sexism—those seemingly well-intentioned but ultimately condescending views—are both strong predictors of cheating.
What's more, many women don't seem to realize that those charming "nice guys" who insist on holding doors and paying for everything might be just as likely to stray as the openly misogynistic types.
Resilience in Relationships Post-Infidelity: Rebuilding Trust and Moving Forward
When Sarah discovered that her husband, James, had been unfaithful, her world came crashing down.
The trust she had placed in him seemed irreparably shattered, and the future of their marriage hung in the balance.
Yet, against the odds, they both chose to stay and work through the aftermath. This wasn’t just about surviving the crisis; it was about finding resilience—strengthening their bond and rebuilding their relationship into something stronger than before.
How Spy Apps Unveil Infidelity
I had a few cases in my earlier years when a suspicious spouse hired a private detective. They were quite happy with the outcome, even though the invoice was over 10K.
One of my clients, called it the “cost of clarity.”
Nowadays, inexpensive digital surveillance and monitoring technologies have become pivotal in unveiling cases of infidelity.
The ease of access to personal data through apps and devices means that suspicious partners can now gather evidence of infidelity more readily, and at very low cost.
Here’s how these specific technologies have played out in actual infidelity cases.
Infidelity in the USA 2024
In The USA, infidelity remains a taboo yet prevalent issue in modern relationships.
This blog post explores the latest 2024 statistics on infidelity, examining who cheats more, the underlying causes, patterns, methods, and consequences.
By understanding these trends, we can foster more open and compassionate discussions about a topic that affects many couples.
Infidelity is a core issue in science-based couples therapy. What does it look like in 2024?
How to Forgive Infidelity: a wife's guide to healing
Infidelity can shatter trust and create profound emotional pain in a marriage.
However, some couples manage to rebuild their relationships stronger than before. This post uses the latest research and expert insights to explore how wives can forgive their husbands' infidelity.
Let's delve into the steps and strategies that can aid in this complex healing process, including the role of attachment styles and preferred outcomes.
Suburban Wife Swapping: From secretive thrills to tragic ends
Suburban wife swapping often referred to as "swinging," involves married couples exchanging partners for sexual activities.
While often intended to be consensual and recreational, this practice sometimes leads to unexpected and tragic consequences.
This post explores the dynamics of suburban wife swapping, highlighting instances where such activities have resulted in tragic consequences.
Are Bisexual Women More Like Men? New study suggests surprising similarities
As a science-based couples therapist, I find it fascinating to explore how different personality traits and behaviors manifest across various sexual orientations.
A recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior has revealed that bisexual women exhibit personality traits and sexual behaviors more similar to heterosexual men than to heterosexual women. Let's explore this intriguing research.
Why passion and intimacy aren't enough to prevent infidelity
I often grapple with the complexities of romantic relationships and the factors that influence fidelity.
New research published in the journal Deviant Behavior reveals some surprising insights into infidelity.
This study suggests that individual tendencies, rather than shared passion and intimacy, play a crucial role in the decision to remain faithful.
Infidelity practices around the world
As a couples therapist, I am often spellbound by the intriguing and sometimes amusing world of relationships.
One aspect that never fails to intrigue me is how different cultures handle infidelity.
From covert operations to outright drama, let's take a peek into a few infidelity practices from around the globe.
But let’s explore not just the practices, but also the cultural underpinnings that might lie behind these differences.
Micro-Cheating: understanding and navigating the modern infidelity
In the age of social media and constant digital connectivity, the landscape of romantic relationships has evolved, giving rise to a new form of infidelity known as "micro-cheating."
This term refers to seemingly minor actions that suggest a person is emotionally or physically focused on someone outside their relationship.
While these actions may not constitute outright cheating, they can still damage trust and intimacy between partners.
What is Emotional Infidelity? a science-based exploration
Emotional infidelity is a concept gaining increasing attention both in scientific circles and popular culture.
While sexual infidelity is often straightforward to define and understand, the boundaries of emotional infidelity are more fluid and subjective.
But what exactly does emotional infidelity entail?