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9 Essential pathways to rebuilding trust with your betrayed spouse
Are you rebuilding trust with your partner after a messy affair? If that’s the case, good for you!
Here are 9 ways to know you’re on track…
How to get over an affair partner… The grief of the involved partner
Getting over an affair partner is an uphill battle.
You want to return to your marriage, but you also need to know how to get over your affair partner.
The grief of the "unfaithful" involved partner is one of the most delicate issues in couples therapy.
Understanding Limerence and the need for a cure…
What is limerence? Limerence is an emotional and mental state of deep, obsessive attachment to another person.
It often feels involuntary and is marked by an intense craving for reciprocity.
Why can limerence symptoms become so problematic that a limerence cure is necessary?
Why do women cheat?
Because women are always “checking the thermostat” of their relational bond, they are less likely to endure circumstances that are severely and chronically unsatisfactory.
This fundamental difference between unfaithful men and women creates complications in couples therapy.
Women are far more likely to engage in exit affairs to cushion the collapse of their marriage…here’s why…
The Polyamory Meme
Rhonda Balzarini and her researchers discovered (as they had expected), that the polyamorous relationship cohort reported experiencing more “nurturance” from their primary than from their secondary partners.
They also told her researchers that their secondary relationships were more “erotic.”
What is the relationship between getting nurtured and getting nookie?
A discussion with Dr. Vagdevi Meunier on BIPOC couples therapy for infidelity…
Dr. Vagdevi Meunier, a prominent thought leader in couples therapy, is my guest for the first video episode of my new Better Relationships through Research Podcast.
Dr. Meunier emphasizes acknowledging and validating each partner's diverse cultural backgrounds and experiences.
In this episode, we’ll discuss the best practices for treating infidelity with multi-racial and bi-racial couples, recognizing the unique dynamics and challenges that can arise within these relationships…
What is Sexual Narcissism?
What is Sexual Narcissism?
For the sake of our discussion here today, let’s keep in mind that Sexual Narcissists exhibit not only a general sense of self-importance but also a specific belief in their entitlement to sexual gratification, often at the expense of their relationships.
Narcissists tend to prioritize their own desires over their partner's, with little regard for the consequences…
What is the science behind forgiving and forgeting?
Forgiveness, a seemingly simple concept, often carries profound implications, especially in the context of infidelity.
Mahatma Gandhi's words, "The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong," resonate deeply, highlighting the strength and resilience required to forgive someone who has caused us immense pain.
Is there any science behind the idea for forgiving and forgetting?
After the affair
After the affair you assess the damage…. what is gone.. and what remains?
… so what happens next?
Affair recovery is best conducted by science-based couples therapists…
Undertaking the twin tasks of affair recovery
Little compares to the devastation people feel upon discovering that their spouses have been unfaithful. Some marriages end right away.
But many others hit agonizing impasses as couples struggle to get past the intense anger, sadness, and mistrust. [Over 60% of marriages survive an affair].
These hurtful interactions wreak emotional havoc on both spouses, and typically neither one has a clue how to help the marriage recover…
Why can’t I forgive my partner after an emotional affair?
“The epidemic of emotional affairs coincides with a tendency that we have noticed for people in long-term relationships to defend themselves psychologically…that is, ironically protect themselves from anxiety-provoking aspects of love.” Psychologist Mark Borg
Stop workplace emotional affairs
Stop fooling yourselves into believing that you can have intimate relationships at work and still have a great relationship with your committed partner.
If you want to experience intimacy, passion, and connection…you’ll want to enjoy that relationship for the rest of your life; you’ll have to keep that emotional depth inside your marriage…