
Welcome to my Blog
Thank you for stopping by. This space is where I share research, reflections, and practical tools drawn from my experience as a marriage and family therapist.
Are you a couple looking for clarity? A professional curious about the science of relationships? Or simply someone interested in how love and resilience work? I’m glad you’ve found your way here. I can help with that.
Each post is written with one goal in mind: to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the hidden dynamics that shape human connection.
Grab a coffee (or a notebook), explore what speaks to you, and take what’s useful back into your life and relationships. And if a post sparks a question, or makes you realize you could use more support, I’d love to hear from you.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
~Daniel
P.S.
Feel free to explore the categories below to find past blog posts on the topics that matter most to you. If you’re curious about attachment, navigating conflict, or strengthening intimacy, these archives are a great way to dive deeper into the research and insights that I’ve been sharing for years.
- Attachment Issues
- Coronavirus
- Couples Therapy
- Extramarital Affairs
- Family Life and Parenting
- How to Fight Fair
- Inlaws and Extended Families
- Intercultural Relationships
- Marriage and Mental Health
- Married Life & Intimate Relationships
- Neurodiverse Couples
- Separation & Divorce
- Signs of Trouble
- Social Media and Relationships
- What Happy Couples Know
How to rebuild intimacy after an affair
There was an affair. It’s over and done.
You’re still working on forgiveness and reconciliation.
You are in couples therapy, and you are slowly healing. But you want to improve even faster. Do you want to learn how to rebuild intimacy after an affair?
Here’s the one thing you must do…
Men and Emotional Affairs…
Emotional affairs are a common problem that I often work on in intensive marriage retreats.
New research has explained how men and emotional affairs; how they begin, gain traction, and build momentum…
The married man flirting at work…
Researchers seem to be utterly fascinated by the married man flirting and the phenomena of flirting in general…
We habitually tend to think of flirting behaviors as synonymous with the expression of sexual interest…but the truth is more complex…
Emotional affairs and texting
The immediacy of chatting and messaging has an accelerating effect on the brain.
While dates in the real world are constrained by time and space, texting with attractive others revs up this felt sense of emotional connection because of the dopamine cascade in the brain.
What’s wrong with being Mono-Normative?
As a couples therapist, I often explore various relationship dynamics with my clients.
One emerging trend that's garnering attention is consensual non-monogamy…
It's a term used to describe relationships where partners agree to engage romantically or sexually with others outside their primary relationship.
Surprisingly, up to 5% of folks in the U.S. embrace such a lifestyle…
How to deal with triggers from infidelity…10 essential tips
If you’re wondering how to deal with triggers from infidelity, here are 10 essential tips from neuroscience and science-based couples therapy that can abbreviate your suffering and accelerate your healing…
What is mate poaching?
Why do some humans seem to love so competitively?
If they set their sights on someone, they will openly compete to entice them away from their current relationship.
The term is “mate poaching” (Schmitt et al. 2004; Schmitt and Buss 2001).
Post Infidelity Stress Disorder Quiz…
Post-infidelity stress disorder (PISD) can be a challenging hurdle for couples to overcome.
However, with the proper guidance and support from couples therapy experts, recovery is quite possible.
I’ll offer a few insights from renowned thought leaders in couples therapy on post-infidelity recovery.
Additionally, I'll provide a post-infidelity stress disorder quiz, along with a scoring legend, to help individuals assess their experiences and navigate the path to healing…
How to Enjoy Sex after Infidelity…
Recovering from infidelity is a challenging endeavor that requires both partners to navigate complex emotions and rebuild trust.
In the realm of sexual intimacy, the journey can be particularly heartbreaking and challenging.
But, experts like Michelle Weiner Davis, Esther Perel, Terry Real, David Schnarch, and John Gottman offer invaluable guidance on how couples can rediscover passion and connection after an intimate betrayal… Let’s jump in…
Surviving Infidelity…
Surviving infidelity demands more than mere endurance; it necessitates a profound journey of introspection, healing, and transformation.
Drawing from the wisdom of leading neuroscience and relationship dynamics experts, I’ll discuss the intricacies of navigating the tumultuous waters of infidelity with resilience, authenticity, and grace.
Resentment… 1 Year After Infidelity…
Infidelity inflicts deep wounds on a relationship, wounds that often take years to heal, if ever fully.
As the initial shock of betrayal subsides, resentment can take root, poisoning the well of intimacy and trust. But what happens as time goes by?
Let’s look at the research on resentment one year after infidelity, exploring its persistence, manifestations, and implications for long-term relationship dynamics.
What is Malevolent Infidelity?
"Malevolent infidelity" refers to a particularly harmful form of betrayal within romantic relationships, characterized by deliberate deceit and malicious intent on the part of the unfaithful partner.
This type of infidelity often involves calculated actions aimed at causing emotional harm to the betrayed partner, such as engaging in affairs with full knowledge of the consequences or manipulating the partner's trust for personal gain.