The best couples therapy dives deep into the human condition, beyond just treating symptoms.

It embraces life's uncertainties and absurdities, encouraging us to face our freedom, isolation, mortality, and quest for meaning.

This journey isn't easy; it demands honesty, courage, and a willingness to truly know oneself.

All in pursuit of reclaiming intimacy in a marriage…

The Zeigarik Effect impacted couples therapy by suggesting that attachment injuries, such as regrettable incidents, and the equally regrettable resentments which follow, are “undelivered plates” which loiter in the kitchen sink of memory.

Collect too many of these undelivered plates, and your kitchen is one inconsolable mess…

Religion often has something to say about best practices in marriage.

In the Baha'i Faith, consultation is a cornerstone of decision-making and conflict resolution, particularly within the context of marriage.

This spiritual and practical approach emphasizes unity, respect, and collective wisdom, fostering harmony and understanding between spouses. Let’s learn more…

The COVID-19 pandemic has significantly reshaped the landscape of couples therapy in the United States, driving both challenges and innovations in how couples therapy is conducted and perceived.

With the onset of the pandemic, couples faced unprecedented stressors, including health anxieties, financial uncertainties, and the pressures of constant togetherness.

Christian couples get a raw deal in secular couples therapy, and Christian couples counseling is often uninformed by science.

Psychotherapy has never been particularly curious about religious faith of any kind.

Most modern therapists do not tend to describe themselves as religious or even particularly spiritual (Bilgrave & Deluty, 2002) and (Smith & Orlinsky, 2004).

As a couples therapist, I often emphasize the transformative power of Generative Conversations.

One particularly impactful method is the Anatol Rapoport Intervention, an integral part of Gottman Theory.

This intervention, rooted in the work of Russian mathematical genius Anatol Rapoport, offers profound insights into improving communication between partners.

Who Was Anatol Rapoport?

Weekly in-person couples therapy may be fading in popularity.

Let’s face it.

Couples have more stuff to do than they have time to do it in.

Recent research shows that couples are experiencing significant stress and attempting to find time to do anything else that matters to them. Here’s what to do instead…

For a relationship to be balanced, partners must be able to depend on one another and feel that they are needed and appreciated for the support they give.

Trying to find change in marriage by only focusing on changing your partner can prevent you from influencing each other and achieving a deeper intimacy. Let’s jump in!

Ever feel like you’re banging your head against a wall trying to change your partner's annoying habits?

Breaking 2024 research tells us that many popular methods for changing behavior don’t work as well as we'd like.

But don't lose hope just yet—science has some answers!

Couples Therapists are often uncomfortable when discussing power…their own power, that is.

That’s why who you choose to work with is so critical.

The Gottman Relationship Checklist and similar assessment tools will help keep your therapist in their own lane…

Unlike the sh*t show of “value-neutral” and “growth-focused” individual therapy, new studies now show that spouses who receive critical relationship-skills training in Hopeful Spouse Coaching will see just as much improvement in their relationships as if they both were in couples therapy.

Yeah.. there is such a thing as “couples therapy for one.”

You want to run the clock in couples therapy but you don’t know how?

Let’s face it. Couples Therapy is just a giant irritation.

Your partner, the therapist, flat-out expects way too much from you and refuses to accept the fact that you are already doing the best you can.

You can never make them happy anyway …so what’s the use?