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Science-Based Couples Therapy:
Research-Driven Interventions.
Profound Intimacy.
Deep Healing and Repair.
70-92% Effective for Motivated Couples.
Restore your intimate connection in
an intensive retreat in the Berkshires… or online.
An evidence-based Couples Therapy Intensive is a comprehensive, and highly effective approach to healing damaged intimate bonds. Science-based methods such as the Gottman and Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapies have been clinically proven to de-escalate relational distress and deepen relationship satisfaction. Select a sequential, personally-tailored approach for a fast reconnect.
Pick your speed: Offered over 2.5 days or up to a 3-month window.
ABOUT DANIEL
Hello…I’m Daniel Dashnaw
I am a science-based marriage and family therapist.
As co-founder of a large international couples therapy practice, I developed award winning blog content that our clients could use to turbo-charge their couples therapy.
Today I maintain a small private practice in the Berkshires, and I also work with motivated couples on Zoom from all over the world.
When I was writing content in my former life, I found myself working with with C-level executives, business owners, creatives, and power couples.
What I learned is that we all put our pants on one leg at a time…
LATEST ARTICLES
“I just need someone who matches my energy.”
Translation: Change, or I leave.
There was a time when ultimatums arrived loud, clear, and wrapped in panic. “Marry me or I’m gone.” “Stop drinking or I’m done.” “Pick me or I disappear.”
But now? Now we don’t threaten. We vibe. We post a pointed quote about boundaries. We say “I deserve better” into the void of Instagram Stories. We go quiet. We go cold. And we wait.
This is the age of the Quiet Ultimatum—the passive-aggressive ballet of modern relationships, where unspoken expectations do the speaking and heartbreak unfolds in high-resolution silence.
Once upon a time, in a dimly lit room in Spain, a group of researchers invited undergrads to stare at human faces—angry, happy, scared, and blank.
As any introvert will tell you, this sounds like a worst-case party scenario. But this wasn’t hazing. This was science.
And what they found may help us understand why some people can watch your face twist in fear and feel absolutely... nothing.
WHAT CLIENTS SAY
“He was perfect.”
There was infidelity and illness. Daniel was fair and understood the issues.
He was the best therapist we have encountered with a specialty of infidelity and mental illness.
“Our relationship was in real trouble. We were disconnected from each other and didn't know how to bridge the gap. Hesitations? My real fear was that it wouldn't work or my husband would be uncooperative. Our therapist was Daniel Dashnaw. Where to start? He was AWESOME. We appreciated his candor, honesty, kindness, sensitivity, practical - solutions based approach. Would you recommend him and Couples Therapy Inc? ABSOLUTELY. Practical Outcome? We have a much better understanding of each other and were given a set of tools that put us on the path to recovery. 1- We got to the root of our troubles, 2- we know how to repair our relationship, 3- I learned how to address my own challenges. Not sure, how else to be helpful. Additional follow-ups as/if needed. I am truly, deeply grateful.”
“Our relationship was good overall but needed to bring more balance in decision making and better connection/communication. We had considered other couples therapists before but honestly, we don't have the time to go for an hour a week every week. This was perfect because it was intensive and in one shot. Daniel was very insightful and direct in his approach. He also brought some perspectives I had not really considered as part of our issues (higher intelligence/processing speed and the impact that has on our interactions). He was appropriately confrontative without being harsh. He was able to quickly assess our primary issues and help us work on them. We are definitely more aware of my approach to managing everyone in the house. We are trying to focus on slowing down and finding more moments of connection. We have prioritizing connection, better communication with each other and the kids, and feeling like we have some tools if things start to slip. I do wonder how it works with couples who are in more distress, given there is so much pressure to be appropriately interactive during the therapy. But overall, I do think that the approaches used would help any couple who was committed to trying to implement the techniques.”
“My relationship was in trouble. We were dealing with a lot of outside stressors and didn’t have the skills to cope as a couple. We really wanted to learn skills and tools that we could use while managing our stress. We were impressed with his careful assessment and science-based approach. We also loved that your therapy was rooted in the Gottman Method and that you offered weekend intensive. I absolutely loved Daniel’s directness and the fact that he was honest with us about our pain points, but also highlighted what we did well as a couple. He shared just enough information about himself to make both of us feel comfortable and we quickly felt at ease with him. He has a great sense of humor, which was appreciated. He also really took the time to learn about us in advance of the intensive, and I really felt as though he was very prepared when we arrived. As a result, we were able to accomplish a lot and I’m so thrilled with our progress during the intensive with Daniel. I honestly don’t think there’s anything I can say that I didn’t like about working with Daniel! We truly enjoyed our intensive and we’re so grateful for his time with us this past weekend! Oh, and Jack (the dog) was such a wonderful addition to our sessions. We are better communicators and just more respectful of each other. I feel that the therapy gave us a lot of insight into our damaging & counterproductive behaviors and what we could be doing instead to foster a safer/more loving/fulfilling relationship. We’re more connected and “in tune” as a couple. I would highly, highly, highly recommend Daniel to any couple who is struggling. He really gets to the heart of what’s going on and works with you to understand how you can improve yourself so that you are a better partner. I really liked his style and working with him was worth every penny.”
"At first, I was hesitant because of my wife's pill use. I was not sure that she could be real with me or herself. I told Daniel to hold no punches, that our marriage depended on him! We had tried just regular therapy. Nothing like this. I would do this again if needed! He held no punches! Dan did what was needed to save our marriage! I wanted us to get along with each other. To be able to communicate with each other without fighting. I wanted to improve our intimacy with each other. After 37 years and two marriages, I was able to be heard! I also learned how I added to our problems with the way I communicated. I learned how to communicate in a positive way. I feel like a new person, partner, friend and husband. I feel that we will be happy with each other and get closer to each other again. Our marriage will start to grow as we implement what we learned! I was heard which made me look at our marriage in a totally different and positive way. I learned that we had a great marriage but had to learn to communicate in a much better way, the way we communicated sucked! Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not? Yes!! When couples have problems like we had, this would be the only way to correct them. Seeing someone for 45-minutes once a week would not work."
"We were miserable; dealing with insecurity, jealousy, control issues, and family/in in- law issues. We feared things would escalate further; however we both felt comfortable & safe with our therapist. Daniel is skilled, knowledgeable, and patient. Daniel didn’t choose sides; he was fair. It helped clarify our feelings. Understand each other’s world, anxiety issues and developmental trauma due to upbringing. We are working on communicating better and reconnecting.
What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.? Seek the help."
"I was not sure that my wife could be real with me or herself.
We had tried just regular therapy. Nothing like this. I told Daniel to hold no punches, that our marriage depended on him!
After 37 years and two marriages, I was able to be heard! I also learned how I added to our problems with the way I communicated. I learned how to communicate in a positive way. I feel like a new person, partner, friend and husband. I feel that we will be happy with each other and get closer to each other again. Our marriage will start to grow as we implement what we learned! I was heard which made me look at our marriage in a totally different and positive way. I learned that we had a great marriage but had to learn to communicate in a much better way."
"Before we contacted you, we loved each other, but harbored a great resentment and distance due to our constant heated battles.
We hesitated started, thinking that it would become "the blame game and finger-pointing." We considered marriage counseling, but neither one of us wanted to continue the stress, anger, resentment of blaming one another on a weekly basis for months.
Daniel Dashnaw got straight to the point of our issues without judgment or blame game - nothing negative. Hats off to him! We now have a deeper respect and knowledge of what our partner is truly thinking when we are playing a much different scenario of the situation in our own minds. Two and a half days seems like it is not enough time to get to the root of our issues, but it was.
Now we aren’t assuming what is going on in our partner's mind. We have tools to work thru our anger with one another.
Thank you, Daniel Dashnaw, for making our transition from angry to loving. The exercises and tools have given us a much brighter future."
“I would highly, highly, highly recommend Daniel to any couple who is struggling.”
I honestly don’t think there’s anything I can say that I didn’t like about working with Daniel! We truly enjoyed our intensive and we’re so grateful for his time with us this past weekend!
“Invest in your relationship and take the plunge.”
He was forthright about issues but supportive at the same time, able to really state when he saw effort and success but not shirking from when issues were staring him in the face.
“He was perfect.”
There was infidelity and illness. Daniel was fair and understood the issues.
He was the best therapist we have encountered with a specialty of infidelity and mental illness.
“Our relationship was in real trouble. We were disconnected from each other and didn't know how to bridge the gap. Hesitations? My real fear was that it wouldn't work or my husband would be uncooperative. Our therapist was Daniel Dashnaw. Where to start? He was AWESOME. We appreciated his candor, honesty, kindness, sensitivity, practical - solutions based approach. Would you recommend him and Couples Therapy Inc? ABSOLUTELY. Practical Outcome? We have a much better understanding of each other and were given a set of tools that put us on the path to recovery. 1- We got to the root of our troubles, 2- we know how to repair our relationship, 3- I learned how to address my own challenges. Not sure, how else to be helpful. Additional follow-ups as/if needed. I am truly, deeply grateful.”
“Our relationship was good overall but needed to bring more balance in decision making and better connection/communication. We had considered other couples therapists before but honestly, we don't have the time to go for an hour a week every week. This was perfect because it was intensive and in one shot. Daniel was very insightful and direct in his approach. He also brought some perspectives I had not really considered as part of our issues (higher intelligence/processing speed and the impact that has on our interactions). He was appropriately confrontative without being harsh. He was able to quickly assess our primary issues and help us work on them. We are definitely more aware of my approach to managing everyone in the house. We are trying to focus on slowing down and finding more moments of connection. We have prioritizing connection, better communication with each other and the kids, and feeling like we have some tools if things start to slip. I do wonder how it works with couples who are in more distress, given there is so much pressure to be appropriately interactive during the therapy. But overall, I do think that the approaches used would help any couple who was committed to trying to implement the techniques.”
“My relationship was in trouble. We were dealing with a lot of outside stressors and didn’t have the skills to cope as a couple. We really wanted to learn skills and tools that we could use while managing our stress. We were impressed with his careful assessment and science-based approach. We also loved that your therapy was rooted in the Gottman Method and that you offered weekend intensive. I absolutely loved Daniel’s directness and the fact that he was honest with us about our pain points, but also highlighted what we did well as a couple. He shared just enough information about himself to make both of us feel comfortable and we quickly felt at ease with him. He has a great sense of humor, which was appreciated. He also really took the time to learn about us in advance of the intensive, and I really felt as though he was very prepared when we arrived. As a result, we were able to accomplish a lot and I’m so thrilled with our progress during the intensive with Daniel. I honestly don’t think there’s anything I can say that I didn’t like about working with Daniel! We truly enjoyed our intensive and we’re so grateful for his time with us this past weekend! Oh, and Jack (the dog) was such a wonderful addition to our sessions. We are better communicators and just more respectful of each other. I feel that the therapy gave us a lot of insight into our damaging & counterproductive behaviors and what we could be doing instead to foster a safer/more loving/fulfilling relationship. We’re more connected and “in tune” as a couple. I would highly, highly, highly recommend Daniel to any couple who is struggling. He really gets to the heart of what’s going on and works with you to understand how you can improve yourself so that you are a better partner. I really liked his style and working with him was worth every penny.”
"At first, I was hesitant because of my wife's pill use. I was not sure that she could be real with me or herself. I told Daniel to hold no punches, that our marriage depended on him! We had tried just regular therapy. Nothing like this. I would do this again if needed! He held no punches! Dan did what was needed to save our marriage! I wanted us to get along with each other. To be able to communicate with each other without fighting. I wanted to improve our intimacy with each other. After 37 years and two marriages, I was able to be heard! I also learned how I added to our problems with the way I communicated. I learned how to communicate in a positive way. I feel like a new person, partner, friend and husband. I feel that we will be happy with each other and get closer to each other again. Our marriage will start to grow as we implement what we learned! I was heard which made me look at our marriage in a totally different and positive way. I learned that we had a great marriage but had to learn to communicate in a much better way, the way we communicated sucked! Would you recommend your couples therapist and Couples Therapy Inc? If so, why? If not, why not? Yes!! When couples have problems like we had, this would be the only way to correct them. Seeing someone for 45-minutes once a week would not work."
"We were miserable; dealing with insecurity, jealousy, control issues, and family/in in- law issues. We feared things would escalate further; however we both felt comfortable & safe with our therapist. Daniel is skilled, knowledgeable, and patient. Daniel didn’t choose sides; he was fair. It helped clarify our feelings. Understand each other’s world, anxiety issues and developmental trauma due to upbringing. We are working on communicating better and reconnecting.
What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.? Seek the help."
"I was not sure that my wife could be real with me or herself.
We had tried just regular therapy. Nothing like this. I told Daniel to hold no punches, that our marriage depended on him!
After 37 years and two marriages, I was able to be heard! I also learned how I added to our problems with the way I communicated. I learned how to communicate in a positive way. I feel like a new person, partner, friend and husband. I feel that we will be happy with each other and get closer to each other again. Our marriage will start to grow as we implement what we learned! I was heard which made me look at our marriage in a totally different and positive way. I learned that we had a great marriage but had to learn to communicate in a much better way."
"Before we contacted you, we loved each other, but harbored a great resentment and distance due to our constant heated battles.
We hesitated started, thinking that it would become "the blame game and finger-pointing." We considered marriage counseling, but neither one of us wanted to continue the stress, anger, resentment of blaming one another on a weekly basis for months.
Daniel Dashnaw got straight to the point of our issues without judgment or blame game - nothing negative. Hats off to him! We now have a deeper respect and knowledge of what our partner is truly thinking when we are playing a much different scenario of the situation in our own minds. Two and a half days seems like it is not enough time to get to the root of our issues, but it was.
Now we aren’t assuming what is going on in our partner's mind. We have tools to work thru our anger with one another.
Thank you, Daniel Dashnaw, for making our transition from angry to loving. The exercises and tools have given us a much brighter future."
“I would highly, highly, highly recommend Daniel to any couple who is struggling.”
I honestly don’t think there’s anything I can say that I didn’t like about working with Daniel! We truly enjoyed our intensive and we’re so grateful for his time with us this past weekend!
“Invest in your relationship and take the plunge.”
He was forthright about issues but supportive at the same time, able to really state when he saw effort and success but not shirking from when issues were staring him in the face.
“He was perfect.”
There was infidelity and illness. Daniel was fair and understood the issues.
He was the best therapist we have encountered with a specialty of infidelity and mental illness.
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You won’t find it in the DSM or a family genogram—yet. But if you’ve ever been the eldest daughter in a family system running on dysfunction, you likely don’t need a clinical label to know what you lived through.
Eldest Daughter Syndrome is a meme gaining traction in therapist offices, TikTok confessionals, Reddit soul-dumps, and YouTube monologues.
It describes a paradoxical phenomenon: the child who carries the family’s weight, not despite her youth, but because of it.
She’s not just a daughter—she’s an emotional third parent, a mediator, an unpaid therapist, and sometimes, the one who keeps the lights on and the peace kept.
And the worst part? She was praised for it.