Trust: The Most Underrated Mental Health Strategy of Our Time

Tuesday, June 17, 2025

What if the single most powerful intervention for lifelong happiness wasn’t mindfulness, exercise, gratitude journaling, or even love—but trust?

Not the fluffy, pastel-hued version of trust you find in self-help books. But something more radical: a willingness to risk connection.

A readiness to offer good faith in a world that often seems built to erode it.

A sweeping 2025 meta-analysis led by Shanshan Bi, Catrin Finkenauer, and Marlies Maes (Utrecht University) analyzed over 2.5 million participants and found this:

Trust predicts happiness. And happiness, in turn, increases our ability to trust.

But this isn’t just a gentle, “be nice and the universe will reward you” story.

This is about how our minds form expectations of the world, how our social nervous systems calibrate safety, and how modern institutions and media diets manipulate those systems daily.

This is about rewiring our relationships—and our culture—from the inside out.

The Trust Loop: A Neurobiological Feedback Engine

Let’s start with the mechanism.

Trust isn’t just an attitude. It’s a neurobiological risk-reward system.

When we trust someone, our brains release oxytocin, which in turn reduces fear and increases social bonding (Kosfeld et al., 2005). This reinforces cooperation and positive regard. But it also makes us vulnerable—we’re lowering defenses.

And here’s the evolutionary brilliance: when the risk pays off, we reinforce both the other person’s trustworthiness and our own worldview that people can be trusted.

This is how trust and happiness bootstrap each other across a lifespan. Each successful act of trust is a small, embodied triumph of the social brain over the vigilant brain.

But when trust fails—and we interpret that failure as confirmation of cynicism—we don’t just lose a connection. We consolidate the emotional memory of betrayal. We learn, neuron by neuron, to keep the world at arm’s length.

Interpersonal, Generalized, Institutional: The Three Pillars of Trust

The study sorted trust into three domains:

Interpersonal Trust

This is face-to-face trust. Your spouse. Your best friend. Your therapist. Unsurprisingly, it had the strongest link to happiness.

But there’s nuance here. Interpersonal trust is most easily shattered by betrayal, and hardest to rebuild. In couples therapy, I often see people conflating attachment wounds with global trust issues. The intimacy of this trust type means it carries the deepest payload of joy or harm.

Generalized Trust

This is trust in strangers, in humanity, in the idea that the average person is more helpful than harmful.

This kind of trust is shaped early—often through family narratives. Were you taught “people are basically good” or “people will take advantage of you if you let them”? Generalized trust forms the backdrop of your social default setting, which then quietly governs everything from how you drive to how you vote.

Institutional Trust

This is our belief that systems—courts, police, hospitals, media—will act fairly and predictably.

Here’s where modern life gets spicy. Institutional trust had the weakest correlation with happiness—but it still mattered. And in high-trust countries, even this type of trust amplified personal wellbeing.

But what happens when that trust collapses?

Welcome to the 21st century: media-fueled disillusionment, clickbait cynicism, polarization, and what some researchers now call epistemic trauma—the distress caused by no longer knowing what or whom to believe (Fricker, 2007).

Trust Across the Lifespan: What Shifts, and Why

Childhood and Adolescence

Trust in childhood is developmental capital. Erik Erikson called this stage “basic trust vs. mistrust,” and it’s not metaphorical. A child who experiences responsive caregiving builds an implicit belief that others will meet their needs.

This belief shapes everything from friendship formation to resilience under stress (Shonkoff et al., 2012). Teenagers, too, need trust as they navigate identity and peer relationships. The study found that youth experience the strongest happiness gains from trust—perhaps because social connection is their main emotional currency.

Young and Middle Adulthood

In your 20s through 50s, trust may wane—not necessarily because people become more cynical, but because the stakeschange.

You’re navigating careers, families, betrayals, power imbalances. Trust gets tempered by strategic caution. You can’t afford to give it away freely. Here, happiness becomes more dependent on self-efficacy than blind social optimism.

But this is also the period where many get stuck. Chronic distrust becomes a personality trait, not a response. And that trait erodes connection, sometimes imperceptibly, across years.

Older Adulthood

Then trust returns—out of necessity. As bodies age and autonomy fades, relational dependency becomes central again. The happiness of elders is tied to secure, predictable relationships—not just emotionally, but logistically.

Interestingly, older adults often show a “positivity bias in how they perceive others—choosing optimism over realism (Carstensen et al., 2003). This isn’t naïveté. It’s strategy: prioritizing what brings peace.

Culture Shapes the Trust Equation

Strangely enough, where you live matters.

High-trust nations like Denmark and Finland don’t just have better public services—they reward trusting dispositions.

In contrast, if you live in a low-trust environment—marked by corruption, violence, or social fragmentation—being a trusting person may expose you to danger or exploitation.

In other words, the psychological ROI on trust is deeply context-dependent. This puts the lie to purely individualistic advice like “just trust more!” It ignores how systems shape personal psychology.

This is also why relational therapy—especially in trauma-saturated contexts—must tread carefully. Encouraging trust without building safety is malpractice.

The Hidden Cost of Distrust in Modern Life

Let’s not sugarcoat it. We live in a world designed to erode trust:

  • Dating apps monetize disposability.

  • News media sells anxiety and outrage.

  • Political discourse rewards polarization.

  • Algorithms foster echo chambers.

In this climate, distrust feels like sanity. Suspicion becomes self-care.

We curate relationships the way we curate our feeds—selectively, cautiously, maybe even cynically.

But this emotional hygiene comes at a cost: chronic loneliness, over-responsibility, and numbness.

You can't be happy without vulnerability. And you can’t be vulnerable without some level of trust.

Therapeutic Implications: Trust as an Intervention

If you’re a therapist, coach, educator, or spiritual leader, this research offers a simple but profound call: Help people build trustworthy relationships—and help them risk trusting again.

Some actionable questions to explore with clients:

  • Who in your life has earned your trust, and how?

  • What early lessons did you learn about trust from family, religion, or culture?

  • What does “safe enough” trust look like—not total, but functional?

  • How might your avoidance of trust be protecting you and limiting you?

And finally: Can we move from asking “Do I trust this person?” to “Can I trust myself to survive if I’m disappointed?”

Final Thoughts: Trust Isn’t a Weakness. It’s a Skillset.

The biggest myth about trust is that it’s binary. That you either have it or you don’t. That once it’s broken, it’s gone forever.

But trust isn’t fragile. It’s plastic. It adapts.

It can be cultivated, repaired, renegotiated—especially when grounded in boundaries, self-awareness, and evidence.

In an age of economic precarity, political gaslighting, and digital distortion, building trust is a radical act. Not because it’s naïve, but because it requires courage, clarity, and repetition.

Trust is not the absence of fear. It’s the decision to move toward connection anyway.

Drop me a line and I’ll send you:
“Rebuilding the Trust Muscle: Exercises for Couples, Families, and Anyone Tired of Being Guarded”
It Includes:

  • Trust mapping exercises

  • Scripts for rebuilding after betrayal

  • Research summaries for psycho-education

Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.

REFERENCES:

Bi, S., Finkenauer, C., & Maes, M. (2025). Trust and well-being across the life span: A multilevel meta-analysis.Psychological Bulletin. https://doi.org/10.1037/bul0000412

Carstensen, L. L., Fung, H. H., & Charles, S. T. (2003). Socioemotional selectivity theory and the regulation of emotion in the second half of life. Motivation and Emotion, 27(2), 103–123. https://doi.org/10.1023/A:1024569803230

Fricker, M. (2007). Epistemic injustice: Power and the ethics of knowing. Oxford University Press.

Kosfeld, M., Heinrichs, M., Zak, P. J., Fischbacher, U., & Fehr, E. (2005). Oxytocin increases trust in humans. Nature, 435(7042), 673–676. https://doi.org/10.1038/nature03701

Shonkoff, J. P., Garner, A. S., Siegel, B. S., et al. (2012). The lifelong effects of early childhood adversity and toxic stress. Pediatrics, 129(1), e232–e246. https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.2011-2663

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