Infidelity and Addiction…
Friday, April 19, 2024.
Infidelity and addiction are two deeply complex and often intertwined issues that can wreak havoc on humans and relationships alike.
While infidelity refers to the breach of trust and commitment in a romantic relationship, addiction encompasses a range of compulsive behaviors, including substance abuse and problematic behaviors such as gambling or sex addiction.
Let’s explore the intricate relationship between infidelity and addiction, drawing on both empirical research and insights from leading experts in the field.
The Interplay Between Infidelity and Addiction Infidelity and addiction often co-occur, with each exacerbating the other in a vicious cycle. Research suggests that individuals struggling with addiction may be more prone to engaging in infidelity as a result of impaired judgment, lowered inhibitions, and an increased propensity for risky behaviors (Volkow, 2016).
Moreover, substance abuse can undermine communication and intimacy within a relationship, paving the way for infidelity (Manning et al., 2019).
Infidelity as an addiction trigger?
Conversely, infidelity can serve as a trigger for addiction or exacerbate existing addictive behaviors.
The betrayal and emotional turmoil associated with infidelity can lead individuals to turn to substances or compulsive behaviors as a means of coping with distressing emotions (Fisher, 2015).
For example, a person who discovers their partner's infidelity may resort to alcohol or drugs to numb the pain or engage in excessive gambling or shopping to distract themselves from their feelings of betrayal.
Underlying Factors Contributing to Infidelity and Addiction
Several underlying factors contribute to the co-occurrence of infidelity and addiction, including psychological, relational, and environmental influences.
Psychologically, humans grappling with low self-esteem, unresolved trauma, or attachment issues may be more susceptible to both infidelity and addiction as they seek validation or escape from emotional pain (Carnes, 2010).
Moreover, relational dynamics characterized by conflict, poor communication, or a lack of emotional connection can fuel both infidelity and addiction.
Research indicates that individuals in unhappy or unsatisfying relationships may be more likely to seek solace in substances or external affairs (Amato & Previti, 2003). Furthermore, societal factors such as cultural norms surrounding infidelity and substance use can shape individuals' attitudes and behaviors in ways that contribute to these issues (Glass & Wright, 2019).
What are our treatment options?
Treatment and Intervention Strategies Addressing the complex interplay between infidelity and addiction requires a multifaceted approach that addresses both individual and relational factors.
Integrative therapies that combine elements of addiction treatment, couples therapy, and trauma-informed care have shown promise in helping individuals and couples navigate these intertwined issues (Brown, 2018).
Therapeutic modalities such as Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and Emotional-Focused Therapy (EFT) can help individuals develop coping skills, regulate emotions, and improve communication in their relationships (Johnson, 2008).
Additionally, support groups and peer-led programs tailored to individuals struggling with infidelity or addiction can provide a sense of community and understanding that fosters healing and recovery (Weiss, 2007).
Infidelity and addiction represent formidable challenges that can profoundly impact individuals, couples, and families.
By respecting the complex interplay between these issues and addressing underlying factors through comprehensive treatment approaches, therapists can support clients in navigating the path toward healing, recovery, and restoring relational trust.
Be Well, Stay Kind, and Godspeed.
REFERENCES:
Amato, P. R., & Previti, D. (2003). People's reasons for divorcing: Gender, social class, the life course, and adjustment. Journal of Family Issues, 24(5), 602–626.
Brown, S. L. (2018). Treating Couples Impacted by Addiction: Approaches and Techniques. Routledge.
Carnes, P. (2010). Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction. Hazelden Publishing.
Fisher, H. E. (2015). Lust, attraction, and attachment in mammalian reproduction. Human Nature, 26(3), 282–306.
Glass, S. P., & Wright, T. L. (2019). The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity. New Harbinger Publications.
Johnson, S. M. (2008). Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. Little, Brown Spark.
Manning, J. C., Latimer, M. J., Hertzog, J. L., & Blevins, C. E. (2019). Substance Abuse and Intimate Relationships. Routledge.
Volkow, N. D. (2016). Relationship Between Substance Use Disorders and Mental Illness: Coping Mechanisms and the Role of the Psychotherapist. Focus, 14(1), 65–73.
Weiss, R. (2007). Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men. Alyson Books.
